To quote the wise fictional character from Star Wars, Yoda, “Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” Anger, pain and depression may seem like three separate emotional entities, but if and when left unattended, they actually aggravate each other.
Pain is a complex phenomenon that has an intense emotional reaction, though the origin can be either physical or emotional. Anger on the other hand is a stimulated response to any threat that hampers the well-being of a person. Rage creates a mechanism in the body that triggers an innate sense of defeatism and pessimism in a person. Though, some psychologists argue that anger in the initial stages is enough to promote motivation, but unattended anger may convert into wrath which itself inflicts the urge to pass pain to one self or in some cases on to others.
The struggles of depression begin with repressed anger. People who experience major anger issues or have suffered horrific pain tend to slip into depression more often. While depression can be severe and may lead to the host feeling hopeless in all situations of life, there are ways to overcome this plaguing disease. The term ‘depression’ covers a wide spectrum in the world of psychology; however, there are certain truths about it which needs to be conveyed and comprehended by all. They can be summed as follows.
Bad Mood is Not Depression, Depression is More Than That
People suffering from depression are bound by negativity which controls most of their impulses. They cannot just go around feeling good and it has no relation with the oscillating moods whatsoever. Depression is more than just fretting and sulking over some trivial issue. Yes, there might be supressed rage but it is more likely to be a grave combination of sadness, anxiety and pain. So depression is like a time bomb that ticks and can burst anytime if poked recklessly. Like other ailments, depression too needs to be treated by professional, especially in cases where violence becomes a major problem.
Be Mindful, Think Your Way Out
There are many books and papers written by experts on how to fight anger and depression. The common thread between all the studies have proven to be only one, being mindful and thoughtful. Understanding the cause of depression and thinking your way out are of utmost importance. Meditation and skilled breathing has had a positive outcome when it comes to fighting this crippling mind disease. However, it is important to understand that mindfulness does change our thoughts and feelings but our relationship with the same. Regulating and tolerating emotions also help control anger that may trigger depression.
Do Not Supress Your Anger, Take Control Over it
One of the main causes of depression is unaddressed anger. As horrifying as it may sound, but all acts of violence stem out of this helpless feeling which floods the body and mind. Getting angry or frustrated over a particular situation can be seen as a sin, but supressing it will only exacerbate it. In fact, a prominent psychiatrist once pointed it out that anger is like a pressure cooker. If too much pressure is exerted on it, it is bound to burst. Control yourself only up to the point where you feel comfortable. Accept anger in a healthy way without fostering it into some self-destructive and discouraging activities.
Stop Being Over Critical, Let Things be The Way They are Meant To Be
We all are to a certain extent critical and judgemental of ourselves. While some may fuss over a slight weight gain, others may be annoyed with their lack of success. Failure is just a part of our lives and there is no harm in facing little bumps in the road. If your inner voice is overcritical, it is bound to have a destructive effect on the state of your mind, and ultimately your actions. So let things be and judge yourself only till it is required. Enjoy life as it is!
Depression is a mortal enemy and fuelling it is anger, which is caused by crippling pain. It is not easy to drive these negative emotions away from life, but it is crucial for you to realise that happiness comes from within. Challenge yourself and push yourself, but also understand the essence of being compassionate and empathetic. No matter whatever the situation is, learn to put yourself over everything. If you are looking for ways on how to fight anger and depression, there are many accessible online. In case of extreme severity, you can take professional help and control it.