60 Minutes to Improved Communications with Mel Robbins and Jefferson Fisher

60 Minutes to Improved Communication

Star Date 07.22.25
with Mel Robbins and Jefferson Fisher

If you're looking for better ways to handle disrespect, respond when someone challenges you, or simply communicate with more clarity and strength, this video is a must-watch.

In this powerful YouTube interview, Mel Robbins sits down with attorney Jefferson Fisher—a man with world-class communication skills and a gift for staying grounded in tense moments. This isn’t about winning arguments or manipulating others. It’s about learning how to solve problems together.

What stood out to me is how calm, clear, and respectful communication can truly shift the energy in a room. You’ll see it in real time through the way Mel and Jefferson interact. I believe you’ll walk away a different person after watching this.

I personally watched the video over two days to allow the insights to really soak in—and I plan to revisit it several more times. There’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation, it’s worth taking notes.

If you’re navigating tough people or difficult situations, this video will give you tools that actually work.

Enjoy—and may it help you communicate with grace, strength, and purpose.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
—Proverbs 15:1

The Science of Showing Up

The Science of Showing Up

 Star Date 07.21.25

There’s a powerful idea rooted in neuroscience that’s transforming the way I approach daily life: preset programs. These are routines I’ve intentionally created, refined, and repeated—so consistently that I no longer negotiate with myself each morning about whether I “feel” like doing them.

Neuroscience teaches us that the brain is a pattern-seeking organ. It thrives on automation. In fact, up to 95% of our daily decisions happen below conscious awareness. That’s where habits live. And that’s why systems matter more than motivation.

Lately, I’ve been diving deep into teachings from experts like Mel Robbins, who emphasizes the importance of setting up these preset programs—non-negotiable habits you run daily, like a script. Think of it like programming your internal operating system: morning routines, movement, prayer, hydration, clean fuel, focused work time. Whether your mood is up or down, you run the program.

Why? Because feelings are fleeting, but the brain craves structure.

For me, continuous improvement comes through these micro-adjustments to my routines. I’m not reinventing everything—just making small tweaks over time that lead to better results. A new way to wind down. A shorter scroll time. A slightly earlier alarm. A habit layered with a habit, like stretching while I brush my teeth.

These may seem small, but they shape the path forward.

In a world that often feels out of control, what I can control is how I show up. And even when I don’t feel like it, I’ve got a program that kicks in and keeps me moving in the right direction. That’s how transformation happens—not in giant leaps, but in quiet, consistent rewiring.

So, if you’re looking to grow, don’t wait for a wave of motivation. Build a routine that honors who you want to become—and run it every day, like your life depends on it. Because, in many ways, it does.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
—Romans 12:2

To Future Me, on the Day You Retire (Star Date: 07.05.30)

 To Future Me, on the Day You Retire (Star Date: 07.05.30)

Dear Michael,

You made it.

Today, you cross a beautiful threshold—from a lifetime of schedules, service, and steady purpose to the open road ahead. I know you still carry the same servant’s heart and the deep desire to bless others, but today, my friend, it’s time to fully unwrap the gift of freedom you’ve dreamed about for decades.

Remember those quiet mornings when you imagined wandering for months without a return ticket? That yearning wasn’t random. It was a glimpse into what God planted deep in your soul—a hunger for discovery, wonder, and new terrain. That hunger is holy. Don’t silence it.

So go. Really go.

Pack the pickleball paddles and tennis rackets. Strap the kayak to Lucy’s roof and tighten the laces on those well-worn hiking boots. Pour a glass of wine and share it with your bride under an unfamiliar sky. Laugh with old friends across the world. Make new ones on trails you’ve never walked. Let the road baptize you into this new chapter.

You spent your life writing stories of Jesus at work in the everyday. Now it’s time to write with Him, across borders and languages, in coffee shops and quiet coves. This isn't a break from your calling—it’s a continuation of it, written in the ink of freedom.

As Mr. Spock once said, "Change is the essential process of all existence." You’re not leaving behind the man you’ve been—you’re becoming even more of who you were always meant to be.

So boldly go, old friend. And as you do…

May you live long.
May you prosper.
And may others find courage in your journey to do the same.

With love, anticipation, and a knowing smile,
Me (Your younger self, still cheering you on)

Adapting in a Changing World

Adapting in a Changing World

Star Date 07.19.25 

Change is no longer coming — it’s already here.
It’s moving fast, and it’s touching every corner of our lives.

Some fear it.
Some resist it.
But I’m learning to embrace it.

Not because change is easy — it’s not.
But because it’s revealing new opportunities I would’ve never seen if I stayed frozen in fear.

For the past several years, I’ve shown up to write.
One story at a time.
Over 5,800 blog entries and counting.

Some of them were about change.
Others about fear.
And over time, I’ve learned that the two are often close companions.

Fear whispers, “You’re not ready.”
Change shouts, “Ready or not, here I come.”

But here’s what I’ve also learned:
Consistency is the bridge between fear and growth.
Showing up daily, even when things feel uncertain, is how you build faith over fear.
It’s how you move forward when the road ahead seems unclear.

God never promised a world that stands still.
He promised His presence in the midst of the movement.
He promised peace that passes understanding — not in the absence of change, but right in the middle of it.

If you’re navigating transition right now — a career shift, a health challenge, a loss, or even a new beginning — know this:
You’re not alone.
You can adapt.
You can find steady ground in the One who never changes.

And maybe, like me, you’ll start to see that every ending carries the seed of a beginning.
That threats can become invitations.
And that consistency — even small, faithful steps — can carry you farther than fear ever could.

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”
— Hebrews 13:8

My Journey with Depression

My Journey with Depression

Star Date:  07.18.25

One sunny morning, I woke up with everything going right. Life felt like it was on cruise control. I was checking all the boxes—goals met, progress made. But something wasn’t right inside.

A quiet sadness crept in—subtle, out of place, and hard to name. I remember asking myself, “Why am I sad when I have so much to be thankful for?”

If depression were a person—a face in your circle of friends—you might struggle to understand them. That’s how it felt when I looked in the mirror one day and saw depression staring back at me. I was startled. Where did he come from? Why is he here? The smile I wore each day was meant to cover him up, but he lingered. Maybe he crept in when I noticed him haunting others close to me. If you think it can’t happen to you—be careful. Depression is real.

And here’s what I’ve learned: depression isn’t always circumstantial. It can be tied to brain chemistry, inflammation, gut health, and even disrupted sleep cycles. But the beautiful thing is—those brain patterns can shift. Exercise, sunlight, meaningful connection, and daily gratitude all play a part in healing. Science confirms what faith often whispers: we were made to move, to be known, and to give thanks.

Eventually, I reached out for help. That was a turning point.

It turns out my sadness was rooted in a grieving heart—one that was carrying more than I had realized. Some losses were permanent, like loved ones who passed away before I was ready to say goodbye. Others were tied to the natural rhythms of life—seasons changing, roles shifting, doors closing. Grief doesn’t only come from death. Sometimes it comes from the slow letting go of what used to be.

The good news? Happiness is not gone. It’s just around the corner. Not the kind of happiness that depends on perfect circumstances—but the kind that grows through practice. It’s choosing joy while walking with pain. It’s not fake. It’s deeply human.

So if you’re struggling, please remember this: asking for help is a brave act of hope.

Today, one of my greatest joys is walking with others who are hurting. There’s something healing about stepping into someone else’s story. I’m still on my journey, and I have a long way to go. But I hope that by sharing a small part of mine, you might find some light on your darkest days.

You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
And joy is still possible.

Have a great day.

Our Pickleball Story

Our Pickleball Story

Star Date: 07.17.25

There’s been a lot of chatter in our community—and beyond—about pickleball. Some folks are curious. Others aren’t quite sure if it’s just a fad or the real deal.

As someone who’s played competitive tennis for over fifty years, I’ve started to see some of my childhood heroes—legends like Andre Agassi and John McEnroe—now playing competitive pickleball. That says something.

Recently, someone from my inner tennis circle asked a visiting friend from Southern California, “Have you gone to the dark side?” Translation: Do you play pickleball?
That’s all we need—another reason to be divided.

But let’s be honest: some tennis players are understandably nervous. Across the country, tennis courts are being repurposed for pickleball. Change is rarely easy. And that’s exactly why I’m sharing our story—because I believe these two great sports can coexist in peace.

My wife has never been a tennis player. Our daughter played competitive tennis in high school—her doubles partner was actually a first cousin. Our sons enjoy playing racquetball with me. Pickleball is similar to racquetball in that it’s easy to learn and quick to love.

Then one day, my wife picked up a pickleball paddle… and everything changed.

Addiction set in—not the kind that tears people apart, but the kind that builds community. That’s what happens when you mix pickleball with strangers. There’s a beautiful transformation.
Strangers become friends.
Widows find new love.
Grandparents discover a game that bridges generations.

And in our case? We became a pickleball family.

This isn’t just our story—it’s happening all over America. Pickleball is growing rapidly and, believe it or not, it's on track to become an Olympic sport. Every time new courts are built, they fill up faster than anyone expects.

We’re fortunate to have indoor courts at our rec center right next door to our home. But weekends are tough—the space is reserved for youth sports, and there’s little room left for working adults to play.

That’s why we’ve launched a project to build four outdoor pickleball courts right here in our community. These courts will be free to use, giving neighbors a chance to get fresh air, sunshine, and community while soaking up some much-needed Vitamin D.

The catch? The city of Williamsburg is strapped for cash. While they’ve generously offered city-owned land, they can’t fund the construction. And truth be told, they’re nervous—unsure if pickleball is just a passing trend or something built to last. They don’t want to be on the hook down the road.

But I believe this game is here to stay. Just ask my wife.

As for me? I’ll be swinging both racquets—pickleball and tennis—for the rest of my life. Our tennis team is heading to regionals in Springfield, Missouri next month, and I wouldn’t be surprised if a few of us are packing pickleball paddles in our bags. It’s great for cross-training.

What about you?
Do you have a pickleball story of your own?
Have you tried it yet?

If you live in Iowa County and haven’t yet played, come visit us—we’d love to welcome you onto the court. Construction will begin as soon as we reach our fundraising goal, and we’re already past the halfway mark.

If you’d like to help us bring this project to life, click the link and check us out.

We’d be grateful. And who knows? Maybe your own pickleball story is about to begin.

If you're looking for a great place to eat tonight, drop by Texas Roadhouse in Coralville.  Doors open at 3pm.  Drop your receipt in the bucket at the host stand and Texas Roadhouse will donate 10% of your order to Pickleball Iowa County.  Take-out orders are also eligible.  Say hello to our volunteers.  Thank you for your support.

Have a great day!  

Dine and Donate on Thursday, 7/17 – You Dine and Texas Roadhouse Donates

Dine and Donate on Thursday, 07.17 — You Dine, Texas Roadhouse Donates!

Doors open at Texas Roadhouse in Coralville this Thursday, 07/17, at 3 PM  until 11 PM — and you’re invited to make dinner count for something greater. Bring your friends, your family, and your appetite. After enjoying your delicious meal, simply drop your receipt in the donation bucket with your host on the way out.

Ordering take-out instead? No problem. There will be a donation bucket at the pick-up window too — just drop your receipt there when you pick up your order.

The kind folks at Texas Roadhouse are donating 10% of all sales (with receipts dropped in the bucket) to Pickleball Iowa County to support our campaign to build four new outdoor pickleball courts in our community.

If you missed us last month, this is your second chance to enjoy a fantastic meal and support a great cause. Look for our crew wearing Pickleball Iowa County shirts — we’d love to say hello! Want a shirt of your own? Ask us how to get one or visit us online at Pickleball Iowa County.

We’re a nonprofit led entirely by volunteers, all working hard to bring free, all-ages play to Williamsburg and the surrounding communities. We’ve reached the halfway point toward our goal of $200,000, and construction will begin as soon as we cross the finish line.

Excitement is growing — and so is our community. Never played pickleball before? Don’t worry. We’ll help you get started and have fun doing it.

Want to learn more or donate online?
📱 Scan a QR code at the event or use one of the links below:

• 🔗 Learn about our mission on Facebook  

•  Make a donation to Pickleball Iowa County (Paypal)  

  
  
  
  

📍 Printed QR codes will be available at the stand next to the host and at your table — just scan with your phone and take the next step to support our community courts!

Can’t make it on Thursday? Please consider making a tax-deductible donation to Pickleball Iowa County, a registered 501(c)(3) charity.

Thank you for helping us serve up something special for our community. See you at Texas Roadhouse!