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'''Ask a TMSer:''' To what extent is it necessary for a person to change who they are in order to overcome TMS? If you have an answer to this question feel free to post it in a thread. {{GenericBox|Contents=
'''Ask a TMSer:''' To what extent is it necessary for a person to change who they are in order to overcome TMS? If you have an answer to this question feel free to post it in a thread. {{GenericBox|Contents=
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“I
think this question needs to be re-worded. We need to change otherwise we won't get better. But , this question is too opene ended.
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“I
think this question needs to be re-worded. We need to change otherwise we won't get better. But , this question is too opene ended.
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marshacohen
marshacohen]
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"I
don't think we have to consciously change our personalities. I think change comes gradually without any conscious effort. Once a person accepts the diagnosis they somehow let themselves feel more..opening themselves to many possibilities.
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marshacohen
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“I
don't think we have to consciously change our personalities. I think change comes gradually without any conscious effort. Once a person accepts the diagnosis they somehow let themselves feel more..opening themselves to many possibilities.
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2Scoops:
"It
may not always be about changing. It can be about recognizing those thought and patterns that can keep us from recovery. Initially if we think we have to change, than we can create more tension by forcing about recovery. It's little by little. I think the recognition of our thought patterns can eventually lead us to change.
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2Scoops
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:
“It
may not always be about changing. It can be about recognizing those thought and patterns that can keep us from recovery. Initially if we think we have to change, than we can create more tension by forcing about recovery. It's little by little. I think the recognition of our thought patterns can eventually lead us to change.
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Penny4Them
Penny4Them]
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“Psychotherapy
can help acknowledge some painful patterns that we continue to create for ourselves that lead to the TMS pain syndrome. I don't think everyone has to change, but in my case, I did have to make many changes. I needed to take charge of my own health and be responsible for my self, and stop feeling responsible for everyone elses wellbeing. I reset boundaries for myself, that if I cross today, my pain comes back. I think it's about taking full ownership for one's self--actions, emotions, and intentions, and setting realisic expectations/limits on what others can expect from you.
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Penny4Them
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“Psychotherapy
can help acknowledge some painful patterns that we continue to create for ourselves that lead to the TMS pain syndrome. I don't think everyone has to change, but in my case, I did have to make many changes. I needed to take charge of my own health and be responsible for my self, and stop feeling responsible for everyone elses wellbeing. I reset boundaries for myself, that if I cross today, my pain comes back. I think it's about taking full ownership for one's self--actions, emotions, and intentions, and setting realisic expectations/limits on what others can expect from you.
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"I
agree with these responses. We don't need to (and probably can't) change who we are as people and change our personalities. What we can do and need to do is understand how our personalities have affected and contributed to our symptoms. It is also important to focus on our needs, and stop repressing emotions.
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“I
agree with these responses. We don't need to (and probably can't) change who we are as people and change our personalities. What we can do and need to do is understand how our personalities have affected and contributed to our symptoms. It is also important to focus on our needs, and stop repressing emotions.
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In [[The Divided Mind]] on pg. 182, Dr. Sarno writes
"Patients
are routinely advised that they need not strive to change their personalities in order to be successful...One cannot change one's inherent traits, though they can be consciously modified. For example, the person who feels perpetually compelled to make a doormat of himself and do nice things for others can take stock and decide to curb the tendency.
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In [[The Divided Mind]] on pg. 182,
'''[[John Sarno, MD|
Dr. Sarno
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: “Patients
are routinely advised that they need not strive to change their personalities in order to be successful...One cannot change one's inherent traits, though they can be consciously modified. For example, the person who feels perpetually compelled to make a doormat of himself and do nice things for others can take stock and decide to curb the tendency.
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[[Bob Evans, PhD|Dr. Bob Evans]]: The way that I like to view this question is as follows:
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[[Bob Evans, PhD|Dr. Bob Evans]]
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: The way that I like to view this question is as follows:
We are born with our 'True Nature'; the very basic essence, the beautiful natural core of who we are. In an ideal world, through the natural flow of energy through all aspects of our experience, IE., interpersonal, intrapsychic, spiritual, etc., (Sensations, Images, Behavior, Affect and Meaning - SIBAM) we continue to grow and evolve more and more into this true natural free flowing beautiful self.
We are born with our 'True Nature'; the very basic essence, the beautiful natural core of who we are. In an ideal world, through the natural flow of energy through all aspects of our experience, IE., interpersonal, intrapsychic, spiritual, etc., (Sensations, Images, Behavior, Affect and Meaning - SIBAM) we continue to grow and evolve more and more into this true natural free flowing beautiful self.
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I think some people 'fear' the idea of 'changing our personalities' because our experience of self, of who we ARE, is tied up in and interwoven with those negative aspects. One fear is that we might 'lose' the sense we have of ourselves if we 'change our personalities'. This could not be further from the truth. As we 'shed' the unwanted, unnatural aspects of self we 'picked up along the way', we 'become' more and more who we really are. We do not lose ANY aspect of ourselves that we do not want to lose. And, more good news, This is a natural process. We do not have to work at all at deciphering which parts to keep and which to let go of. Our Autonomic Nervous Systems simply, naturally shed, or in the language of 'Somatic Experiencing', 'discharge' the previously 'stuck' negative energy that was manifested as unwanted aspects of our personality, and thus interfering with the natural flow of who we really are.
I think some people 'fear' the idea of 'changing our personalities' because our experience of self, of who we ARE, is tied up in and interwoven with those negative aspects. One fear is that we might 'lose' the sense we have of ourselves if we 'change our personalities'. This could not be further from the truth. As we 'shed' the unwanted, unnatural aspects of self we 'picked up along the way', we 'become' more and more who we really are. We do not lose ANY aspect of ourselves that we do not want to lose. And, more good news, This is a natural process. We do not have to work at all at deciphering which parts to keep and which to let go of. Our Autonomic Nervous Systems simply, naturally shed, or in the language of 'Somatic Experiencing', 'discharge' the previously 'stuck' negative energy that was manifested as unwanted aspects of our personality, and thus interfering with the natural flow of who we really are.
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