I have to start the show notes out with something that has become glaringly apparent to me and yes, I know it seems obvious, but there is such a difference between “getting something” and “understanding something”.
The more I write and engage the easier it gets.
I can’t seem to write a post that is less than 1000 words!
Whaaaaat? (this is one of my favorite new sayings, which I stole from Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson in the movie “The Internship”, which isn’t an academy award winning movie but was a fun, enjoyable afternoon at the movies with my son).
I’m not even kind of complaining… I’m having a ball!
BUT...
bom bom bom…. of course now I start seeing posts about how shorter posts are better (think post formats, which if you’re not sure what they are I’ve got a post and video coming soon), and how single author blogs are dead. REALLY? Oy vey. I don’t think so.
There will always be trends, “new fangled fancy pants” ways of doing things but at the end of the day providing quality content will always work. Period. End of story. Full stop.
(can’t believe I used the statement ‘new fangled’…)
By the comments I’m receiving on these lengthy posts I’m not too worried. I’m receiving more comments than I ever have before and am building some amazing new relationships! So do
yourself a favor… go ahead and read the latest and greatest news about what’s working online, take it all and and then see what sticks! Think of it like panning for gold (I’ve actually done this! My parents live about an hour east of the Sierra Mountains, so we’ve actually panned for gold in ‘them thar hills’… what is up with my lingo today?).
When you pan for gold you scoop a bunch of of ‘stuff’ out of the river, but then you clear through all the crap to find the gold. You may only find a tiny nugget, but that tiny nugget is worth far more than a HUGE bucket of pebbles, rocks and sand (or whatever else you may find in the river).
The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received
Kind of a bold claim, I know.
Of course when I had this ‘nudge’ to share this as the best advice I’ve ever received it felt like “BAM!” That’s powerful! Now as I write this I’m thinking, “hmm… is this the BEST advice I’ve ever received?” Aah… my sidekick, the ‘overthinker’ has shown up. I’ll push my sidekick aside and leave this as is, because no matter what you’re doing, what area of your life you apply this to, it’s going to pay off. I live by the saying that “you don’t regret the things you do, you only regret the things you don’t do.”
The best advice I ever received was actually in reference to my past relationship (promise I won’t go all Dr. Phil on you here, not how I roll. Wayne Dyer yes, Dr. Phil, no). It was in the first couple of months of the relationship (you know, the ‘honeymoon’ phase) and I was on cloud 9. I was talking to my therapist about it (well, giggling like a school girl is more like it) and here’s what she said to me:
“Go ALL in Kim!”
There was more to the conversation than that, but the overall message was give it all you’ve got. If it doesn’t work out you can at least look back and know you gave it everything and savored every moment.
Of course she was right.
It didn’t end the way I had hoped it would, but I have no regrets. 90 percent of the time it was great. And like most things that end (relationships, friendships, businesses…whatever), I can see now that there is no way I could have spent my life with him, but I know without a doubt that I went ALL in!
This is a question you need to ask yourself about your business.
Are you going ‘ALL’ in or are you playing at your business?
How to determine if you’re ALL in
Here’s the thing.
This is going to look different for each person, so there isn’t really a system or task list that will help you determine if you’re going all in. You’re the only one who can determine that. But YOU know on a gut level if you’re going “ALL in” or if you’re keeping yourself busy with tasks.
I was the QUEEN of busy.
For me this came down to putting MY work out there (courses, sites, media, etc.) and really stepping up and engaging. Owning what I know.
If you feel like you tend to hide or play it safe, you’re not going ALL in
If you find you’re constantly making excuses why you don’t have time, then you’re not going ALL in
If your income isn’t where you want it to be, then you’re not going ALL in (listen to the show to get more insight on this one)
If you NEVER feel uncomfortable, they you’re not going ALL in
If you’re never pushing yourself and getting lost in what you do, then you’re not going ALL in
I’m sharing this with you because the moment I realized I wasn’t going ALL in I knew it was time to make a decision. Time to step it up, get comfortable with being uncomfortable and REALLY put myself out there.
What a difference.
How Not To Be An AssHat
(image is from drawsigner.com, he created an AssHat Award.. haha! LOVE IT!)
Omg. I knew this was going to make it into a podcast the second this happened. I swear I just do NOT understand people sometimes! WHAT THE BUCKET IS WRONG WITH YOU???
This really isn’t going to be a rant… well, maybe it will. I don’t think I can make any promises on this one.
Here’s what happened.
I shared a recent post of mine on my social networks, like I normally do, which includes Google+. Later that day I was looking at my G+ account on my phone, saw some people had like the post and I accidentally plussed (+) my own post. Then later that day I see the message below (I’ve blurred out the person because I don’t need to be an AssHat too):
First, I did have a quick little explanation as to what the post was, but REALLY? Who ARE you?
Sometimes I just wish people would get a hobby. Sigh.
I honestly do not understand why people don’t choose to be kind. It’s SO simple.
The easiest way NOT to be an AssHat?
Don’t DO stuff like this!
Remember all those basic rules you were taught when you were little? Do unto others, play nice, how would you feel, etc.???
I’m not saying not to use your voice or state an opinion. Knock yourself out. But if you don’t know how to disagree with someone or share your opinion without being a douche shut your trap. It says SO much more about you than it does the person you’re criticizing.
If you see an error on someone’s site, contact them or email them… DON’T leave it as a comment. AssHat move.
If you want to disagree with something someone posted, share your views. Don’t attack them or call them names. Another AssHat move.
If you see something that has set you off… WAIT a while before responding. Do NOT respond in the heat of the moment. AssHats have no patience when ego is involved.
I think you get the jist of how ‘not’ to be an AssHat, and the truth is that I really don’t know anyone who does this type of stuff. It’s just not something I tolerate in my life.
Links mentioned in this episode
MP6 WordPress Plugin
Liz Seda of A Life On Your Terms
Lorizzle.nl (Lorizzle lorem ipsum generator)
As always, I’d LOVE your comments and a review and feedback in iTunes!
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