I've usually been happier when in a long term relationship, that's just the type of guy I am. However, over the years, I've started to associate relationships with pain and negativity. And what's worse, I've started to associate women with clinginess, dependency, and spending too much money.
I'm in Thailand, by the way, so things are a little different here. The women are clingier. They want you to be their boyfriend by the third date. And, they don't put out as easily. To top it off, they can be incredibly vindictive—Thailand has the highest rate of severed dicks in the world. All that being said, if you play by a different rulebook, you could more easily find a far, far better woman for relationship material here than you could back in, say, the USA.
Anyway, I feel like I'm slowly losing my momentum, because, although I WANT to be able to have a relationship with one of these gorgeous girls, I associate relationships with pain, as I said in my first paragraph. At the same time, I'm wary of participating in the one-night-stand lifestyle too much here, as I said, the girls can be clingy and vindictive, even after a ONS! I had a friend who was robbed of his laptop, iPhone, iPad, and wallet by a girl who he thinks drugged him, a seemingly "nice girl" who he took home from a club here.
In short, I'm stuck between two worlds... and not getting laid, by choice.
Is this normal? Is there something I can do to change these beliefs?