High five!
1. No more physical contact: If your girlfriend used to love cozy-ing up to watch a movie or would spontaneously grab your hand in public, chances are good that being physically affectionate is an important part of the way she shows love. If she’s stopped doing those things and seems to react with a little resistance if you put an arm around her at a movie theater or do something else that was once standard practice, she might be losing interest. Having to plan a special time to be together physically instead of letting it happen naturally may also indicate dwindling interest.
Couples who have been together for a good while get less and less touchy feely, so if she is not being as affectionate it may not mean she is loosing interest. It could just mean she knows you are not going anywhere, you are committed to make it work. So a high five now and then is all that is necessary in her mind. If a man understand the woman he is dealing with he will not read into things that are not really a problem.
You are driving me crazy!
2. You're constant fighting: An occasional argument is no big deal, but if neither of you having a strong opinion on where to go for dinner can suddenly escalate into a full-scale fight, you can bet you’re not really fighting about your date. Tension has developed in the relationship, and it’s reared its ugly head via little spats and huge blowouts alike. A girlfriend who is losing interest is more willing to hurl epithets and get nasty over little things if she doesn’t see long-term relationship potential.
Ok! maybe she just has a combative personality. a good fight now and then may just prove to her that she has not handed over her power to her man completely. When in doubt a good fight might just be a reminder of "I still have my power." Read the signs carefully because you might miss read her, and over react and that can lead to more problems.
Is he sleeping or just pretending...? don't ignore me, dude!
3. She is only talking about other people: If Kurt from work is suddenly a key player in every anecdote your girlfriend is sharing, she might not be as invested in the relationship as you are. Although some people choose to start dropping the name of a new potential crush in order to generate drama and create interest from their partner, some genuinely start moving on while they’re still in a relationship. It may not be conscious, but in either case, it’s not a great sign.
Any man who trips over a guy with the name "Kurt" , may have other problems. If she is talking about another guy she works with it could mean that her interest in him is about the comparison that she is drawing between you and him. He pays attention to her, while you just turns unto your side and it's lights out. Talk to her about what is so great about Kurt. Call him Clark (compare him to Clark Kent) and see what she says.
I want to live in a tree house in Wash. state!
4. She is leaving you out of her future plans: “When I go to Macchu Picchu” might not seem like a problematic sentence, until you realize that you two used to talk about going together. If your girlfriend is talking about future events in a way that leaves your presence at those events as an ambiguous variable, she might not see you in the picture a few years down the road.
OK I would not sweat too much on this one. People want to take trips with out their partner for different reasons. If she's talking about moving to a tree home in a city that you just will not even consider... then I would be concerned. Then she is planning a move that does not include you..... period.
Great wine choices
5. Anything else is more important: Work, a night at the wine bar with Susan, dog-sitting for a coworker who had an appendectomy and researching garbage disposal repair companies shouldn’t all exclusively and constantly take priority over your relationship. If your relationship has gone from high contact to constant blow offs, your girlfriend may be losing interest and hoping you take the hint.
Well this one can just be a trick to get you to start seeing her in a different light. If a wine bar is a major attraction for her, just because her life at home with you in the evening is just boring. She want to feel alive. and you are not contributing to her feeling alive. think about how you have been coming home and just flopping down in front of the TV and falling asleep, and there are no wine choices at home for her to get buzz on.
You make me feel like I made a big mistake!
6. She is Nitpicking constantly: This can lead to #2, constant fighting. If habits that never seemed to irk your lady before are suddenly driving her straight up the wall and she seems to be irresistibly drawn to comment on them, she may be losing interest. The rose colored glasses with which she once saw you have been replaced by the harsh glare of reality, and she’s questioning whether she can live with some of your less endearing habits.
Finger pointing can be misread often! when she is pointing her finger at you she is also pointing 3 finger at herself. Don't ignore what this might mean. It could mean she is thinking that you misrepresented who you are, initially.. and that she should have seen your flaws earlier. She might be blaming herself for not recognizing that you are not the maintenance man she want. "Mr. fix it all" could be what she wanted. and let's face it no man is ever "Mr. fix it all"