Team SurThrival might not be into the whole hype of Valentine's Day but we are strong advocates of Love. Each of us took a little time to give you some of our favorite love tips for having a happy and healthy relationship.
Daniel Vitalis
Men, if there is a female lover in your life, she wants - likely more than anything else - to open fully and surrender completely into loving ecstasy with you. Like a flower she wants to bloom as wide-open into love as she possibly can. This my friends *is *the ultimate romantic and sexual experience, and arriving there isn't as much about techniques as it is about your absolute presence and total loving patience. No rush, no goals, no agendas - for her to open fully she must sense and feel that you are completely relaxed, totally available, and above all fully present in the moment and in your masculine energy. Set some time aside.. hours, the whole night, even an entire weekend (ok, that one is for people without kids!). Create the space, create the mood, and then show up emotionally and physically in a deeper way than ever before! Her whole being will radiate with love and gratitude!
LeighLon Anderson
If relationship Longevity is important to you and your partner the most crucial thing, in my opinion, is friendship and lots and lots of clear communication of needs. As we grow older, the relationship does too! Changes take place that your partner may not fully understand so talking to each other and sharing vulnerably with your best friend is essential. True connection comes from a place of understanding and to get there we must be willing to share these parts of ourselves with trust and openness. This applies in and out of the bedroom ;). Ladies when is the last time you sent a naughty message or picture to your husband of 20 years? Do it! Making them feel desired and attractive is as vital as them continuing to tell you how beautiful you are!
Jessi Crane
Be the best of friends. Show your appreciation for each other, even for the little things. Communicate clearly and openly. Nurture your mutual and individual passions. Commitment is a living, breathing thing - be open to grow and flow with it. Deep, belly laughs together often also a must :)
Ashley Knight
Find unexpected moments for love. Life can get pretty hectic at times between work, children, pets, and all your responsibilites but make time for little love gestures throughout the day; running your fingers through hair, lightly writing messages on your partners back, give a massage while he/she is making dinner or my favorite, have what my husband and I call naked time. Lie together naked, touching each others skin and staring into each others eyes as you say nothing, think nothing just absorb one another. Little moments to find connection can make all the difference. My last tidbit of advice always find time to be silly and laugh together.
Camille Giglio
Together is our favorite place to be. It seems like a simple thing, but finding the time to be genuine together and alone together, is what makes us remember we're a couple. With a child running around (or children), animals, work to get done, messes all around, even if you both work at home and are around each other a lot, you need to find the quiet times where you can be together and talk to each other or just be silent together. Whether it is for 10 minutes or an overnight, being a couple in love is the foundation for your life together that may include more members than it did originally. It’s so important to continuously flourish in that foundation and connect as best friends, lovers, mates.
Jo-Anna Jackson
The day we started hanging out, before we even called it dating. I saw something real in you. Someone real. That someone I gave up on looking for in my life, I didn't believe a person like that existed anymore. But here you are standing before me. Beside me. Love shines on us today first because of God and now because of you. And because of this Love I know that we will grow into a strong family, with affection, trust, understanding and friendship. Only this kind of Love can do that. You are my best friend, my partner, and after this my husband. I hope and pray to be the perfect wife for you. You'll never be alone for I will always be there. You have my heart and always will. That will never change. I will always give you light when there is dark. I will listen to your hopes and your fears. I pledge my loyalty and faithfulness to you. I promise to play with you as much as I can until we grow old, and loving each other happily and sweetly till our lives have come to the end. Caw Caw. I love you.
These are the vows that I said to my husband on our wedding day. Every time I read them I cry tears of joy. This marriage and love does not come easily. There is always work that needs to be done to keep it strong and together. But as long as you remember the promises that you made to each other whether you're married or not, you will see the light through. Remember to encourage each other on their goals in life to be the best person that they want to be. Not necessarily catch them if they fall but giving the extra strength to help them stand tall in times when it seems impossible. Be your partners best friend more then anything else. 1+1 = 2? No.1+1 = 1. Be strong and love TOGETHER. *Note: “Caw Caw” Was what he said to me that meant “I love you.” but thought it was to soon to say in our relationship.
Brandon Amalani
Making time and creating space to just be together is so important. There are so many things in life that occupy your time and mental/emotional energy that it is so important to create the space to just be with each other. Listen, laugh, communicate deeply. Your partner should feel like home. You don't have to be anything or do anything. Make your relationship with your partner sacred by bringing presence into the moments you are together and thoughtfulness into the moments when you are apart. Through all the inevitable changes in this life, may you find a depth of love that is unshakeable, profound, and peaceful.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Love from all of us here at SurThrival