The perfect venue is an essential component to any successful date. But here's the thing: A great first date spot is going to look quite different from an anniversary spot — or even a second date spot, for that matter.
Every date situation calls for different things — be it neighborhood, vibe, or price point. And it can be tricky to find the right bar, restaurant, or cafe based on Google search alone. Thus, we offer this ultimate guide to date spots in San Francisco. The guide is organized by neighborhood, spanning San Francisco and the East Bay. Each section includes options for a first date, a breakup, a longterm relationship, and other scenarios (see the key, below right, for exact categories). In short, next time you're trying to pick a fitting location, we've got you. Date on.
Table Of Contents (all h2's added automatically)
The Key
First date, drinks: A first date bar should have good drinks, a buzzy vibe (full, but not crowded), and the ability to order some food if things are going well.
First date, coffee: Coffee shops with friendly baristas, great drinks, and somewhere to sit are essential for a first date.
Second date, moderate: Second dates are all about getting to know one another, so your venue can't be too loud. It also shouldn't be too expensive, and the ability to make a reservation is a must. Good second date spots inspire you to start with cocktails and segue into a bottle of wine that you can linger over.
Second date, expensive: You might be willing to unleash a larger portion of your paycheck on a second date; these restaurants are chosen with that in mind. These spots have all the attributes of the above, but with some heftier prices and fancier vibes.
Where to lock it down: When you're ready to signal to someone that you're serious about the relationship, it's time to head to a special occasion spot that shows your intentions through delicious food and top-notch hospitality. Note: this is not — we repeat not — a place to put a ring on it.
Long-term relationship (LTR), moderate: These spots have an extra interesting element to them to add a little excitement to your 244th date night. Friendly service and fun vibes make the night feel like an event — all at price points that allow date night to be a regular thing.
LTR, expensive: Ditto on the above, but for when the you're feeling a bit more fancy or have a special occasion to celebrate.
Breakup spot: Breakups should always happen in the privacy of one's home. But sometimes you just have to cut the cord in public. You'll need a place that's dark and allows for a quick exit. It should be crowded enough not to feel awkward, yet empty enough to give you some semblance of privacy.
Berkeley
First date, drinks: East Bay Spice Company
Indian-inspired cocktails redolent with rose water and spices will get the conversation flowing at this dimly-lit spot in the heart of Berkeley. If things are going well, grab some snacks from the menu, which ranges from papadum to prawn tandoori. 2134 Oxford St.
First date, coffee: Bartavelle
Great coffee and the avocado toast of your dreams exist at this cute and tiny Berkeley gem. Formerly Alice Waters' Cafe Fanny for 28 years, Bartavelle picks up where Alice left off with a very Berkeley vibe and adorable patio. If coffee goes long, there's a selection of Kermit Lynch wines for sipping al fresco. 1603 San Pablo Ave.
Second date, moderate: La Marcha
A bustling Spanish restaurant in Berkeley's International Marketplace district, La Marcha has an extensive menu of tapas, paellas, and charcuterie. Grab a pitcher of sangria and a host of plates to share amongst yourselves — it's the ultimate compatibility test. 2026 San Pablo Ave.
Second date, expensive: Comal
Though not a white tablecloth kind of place, lively Comal has an upscale menu of Oaxacan delicacies, like hen-of-the-woods mushroom quesadillas and wood-grilled platos fuertes for two. Grab a couple carefully crafted margaritas and head to the dreamy garden patio. 2020 Shattuck Ave.
Where to lock it down: Chez Panisse
Not only is Chez Panisse a Berkeley classic, it's also the birthplace of California cuisine. Alice Waters' prix-fixe restaurant in the Gourmet Ghetto is still serving up pristine Bay Area produce, amazing wines, and impeccable ambiance. Make sure to take a peek into the gorgeous kitchen before the night is over. 1517 Shattuck Ave.
LTR, moderate: Ippuku
Darkened corners, bamboo mats, and Japanese whiskies make Ippuku a mini-adventure in downtown Berkeley. Spin through the yakitori menu of grilled chicken knees, or order the secret chicken tartare for an extra intrepid evening with the ol' ball and chain. 2130 Center St.
LTR, expensive: Gather
Across from Cal's verdant campus, Gather is a welcoming oasis of locally-sourced comfort food. Dine under strung lights on the heated patio, or pack into the busy dining room where jars of pickled vegetables line the walls. After, walk down the street for drinks in downtown Berkeley amongst the students, to feel young and unattached again. 2200 Oxford St.
Breakup spot: Missouri Lounge
This ancient dive bar is as faded as your relationship, and the perfect place to nip it in the bud. Drown your mutual sorrows at opposite ends of the bar with "the special," a shot and a beer for $5. When the deed is done, listen to any number of ballads on the jukebox that are perfect for soothing an addled heart. 2600 San Pablo Ave.
— Ellen Fort
Bernal Heights/ Noe Valley
Holy Water
First date, drinks: Holy Water
Excellent cocktails in a modern space are all you need for a first date in this sleepy neighborhood. Plus, there are some bar snacks like nuts and jerky to help line your stomach. 309 Cortland Ave.
First date, coffee: Pinhole
The colorful, quirky space has seating inside and out front, and the rotating coffee is always on point. Just beware of the children that often flood the space, though it's large enough that you can usually avoid them. 231 Cortland Ave.
Second date, moderate: Blue Plate
This underrated neighborhood restaurant has a back garden that will make any date swoon. Reserve a table out there and dine on top-notch comfort food with a twist that's matched by an approachable wine list. 3218 Mission St.
Second date, expensive: Saru Sushi
Tucked into a cranny in Noe Valley, Saru has a cult following — and long waits that start when it opens, so be prepared. But options in this neighborhood are limited, and you can get to know your date better over a drink before you're seated (tip: head right across the street to Caskhouse). All will be forgotten once your table is ready and you bite into the expert nigiri. 3856 24th St.
Where to lock it down: La Ciccia
No restaurant in the city has more charm than La Ciccia, where a husband-and-wife team have put their love into the space for the last ten years. Let wife Lorella Degan settle you into your table and a great bottle of wine, after which husband Massimiliano Conti will delight your taste buds with the traditional Sardinian fare. It all leads up to a special evening free of some of the pretense that can infuse SF dining. 291 30th St.
LTR, moderate: Hillside Supper Club
This market-driven casual restaurant is a true neighborhood favorite, with regulars and industry types filling seats every night. What keeps people returning are the same qualities that make date night feel special: excellent, familiar food; friendly and knowledgeable staff; and affordable, interesting wine. 300 Precita Ave.
LTR, expensive: Ichi Sushi
Ichi Sushi offers a lovely omakase that incorporates both classic and new sushi offerings, while also focusing on sustainable fish. When you and your SO want a big-ticket night out in the neighborhood, Ichi is the way to go. Be sure to sit at the front bar for chef interaction, or head to Ni Bar in the back for a fun, inexpensive happy hour with lots of grilled robata items. 2382 Mission St.
Breakup spot: Rock Bar
People will be too focused on pool and ping pong to notice the drama unfolding in your personal life. Pick a booth at this divier bar (with the bonus of better-than-average cocktails) for some privacy, and make it quick. 80 29th St.
— Stefanie Tuder
THE CASTRO
First date, drinks: Blackbird
This neighborhood watering hole has inexpensive, expertly-crafted cocktails made by very friendly bartenders. The drink names can help discussion flow — it's hard not to talk about cocktails inspired by Game of Thrones and hip hop albums. There's also rotating art on the walls for moments of true conversation desperation. 2124 Market St.
First date, coffee: Thorough Bread & Pastry
This sunny space has great coffee and traditional French pastries to give your first date an infusion of Parisian romance. There are plenty of tables to choose from, so park as needed. 248 Church St.
Second date, moderate: Starbelly
The back patio is the star at this bustling neighborhood hang. So make sure you dine outside on a warm day. Share top-notch pizza and other Italian fare made with local ingredients. Sitting inside is a great backup, so don't worry if Karl comes rolling in. 3583 16th St.
Second date, expensive: Aatxe > Cafe Du Nord
Order a ton of tapas and explore the excellent sherry list at this intimate, buzzy Spanish spot. Then stumble downstairs to Cafe Du Nord for excellent craft cocktails in a moody, dark space. 2174 Market St.
Where to lock it down: Frances
Chef Melissa Perello has created one of the city's most beloved Californian restaurants. The cozy space makes your table feel intimate, and the dreamy food will give you a break from swooning over each other. 3870 17th St.
LTR, moderate: Anchor Oyster Bar
Everyone knows that oysters are aphrodisiacs, so give your significant other a not-so-subtle hint over dozens and dozens of them. The nautical, small space gets packed, too, so you'll be forced to crowd closer in the process. 579 Castro St.
LTR, expensive: L'Ardoise
This charming Parisian-inspired bistro oozes romance, with its soft lighting, warm tones, and classic French fare. It might be a staid date spot, but there's a reason Paris is called the romantic city in the world — because the French know how to set a sexy tone. 151 Noe St.
Breakup spot: Last Call Bar
Appropriately named for your dying relationship, Last Call has all the dark and divey vibes you need for a breakup. It's a lower-key spot in the middle of the Castro, and there's a fireplace to provide the heat your relationship lacked. 3988 18th St.
— Stefanie Tuder
Chinatown/ North Beach
Tosca Cafe | Photo: Bill Addison
First date, drinks: Tosca Cafe
At Tosca, the bar is where it's at: stellar drinks, stellar bartenders, and stellar vibes. Just be sure to arrive a little earlier than your date to do the chivalrous thing and secure some seats for the two of you (you can even sneak in a loosen-up drink) — nothing is worse than pretending you love to stand while trying to romanticize a stranger. 242 Columbus Ave.
First date, coffee: Hole in the Wall
The name of this quirky, hipster coffee shop is not an exaggeration — it's a literal hole in the wall — but the coffee is great, there are real coconuts for the buying (which can be a fun, if confusing, alternative to coffee), and it's right near Washington Square Park, which has top-notch people watching for bonding moments. 524 Union St.
Second date, moderate: Cotogna
There may be no more perfect a meal than pizza, pasta, and wine on a second date, and Cotogna leads San Francisco in those three categories. The lighting is always just right, too. 490 Pacific Ave.
Second date, expensive: Roka Akor
Fancy sushi and fancy drinks in fancy environs sums Roka Akor up pretty well. And if your date doesn't like sushi, there are plenty of entree options to choose from. 801 Montgomery St.
Where to lock it down: Kokkari Estiatorio
Kokkari is a special occasion classic for a reason: It consistently nails the restaurant holy trinity — food, service, and atmosphere — with its wood-fired Greek food and attentive staff. 200 Jackson St.
LTR, moderate: Bix
Live jazz in a supper club setting is just what you need to add romance into a date, and Bix has both in spade — plus tons of whiskey. The menu of American classics with modern twists always impresses. 56 Gold St.
LTR, expensive: Mister Jiu's
The gorgeous dining room at Mister Jiu's is a joy to discover amidst the typically lower key restaurants in Chinatown, especially paired with chef Brandon Jew's contemporary takes on Chinese food (served banquet-style for the two of you to feast on). It all makes for a surprising evening out in a neighborhood that hasn't changed in recent decades; don't skip out on the cocktails or dessert. 28 Waverly Pl.
Breakup spot: Bow Bow Cocktail Lounge
A karaoke bar may seem an odd choice for a breakup spot, but the more you think about it, the more genius it becomes. There's plenty of music to drown out any of the more heated moments in your conversation, people are too focused on the singer to notice you, and you can even sing a swan song if needed. 1155 Grant Ave.
— Stefanie Tuder
COLE VALLEY/ THE HAIGHT
First date, drinks: Aub Zam Zam
The bartenders at this notoriously ornery, Persian-themed dive bar have softened up a bit in the past few years, making this one of the more romantic dives in the neighborhood. You'll want to stick to ordering the basics, but if you can successfully navigate first date drinks here, where the prickly staff can be an obstacle to overcome together, then you definitely deserve a second date. 1633 Haight St.
First date, coffee: Flywheel Coffee
Grab a spot in the window, and gaze longingly at Golden Gate Park. If things are going well and you don't immediately want to run away, propose a stroll through the greenery. 672 Stanyan St.
The Alembic | Photo: Flickr/::novacainated::
Second date, moderate: The Alembic
Snag a booth in the dining room and have an intimate conversation over a couple New BFFs (the cocktail, that is, made with double rye, Suze, and vermouth) and some jerk-spiced duck hearts. The drinks never fail to get things going, but be careful if you're on a budget — those small plates can run up a tab real quick. 1725 Haight St.
Second date, expensive: Padrecito
Padrecito's lively bar atmosphere and rustic, California-Mexican menu make for a more substantial dinner commitment. Start with cocktails at the colorful bar — perfect if your tastes skew more toward mezcal than whiskey — and then sit down to share a bunch of tacos and small plates. 901 Cole St.
Lock it down: Zazie
Celebrate the fact that you and your new beau actually enjoy each other's company with a romantic patio brunch for two at this relaxed longtime neighborhood favorite. Besides, if you're going to wait that long for gingerbread pancakes and challah french toast, you might as well make it official. 941 Cole St.
LTR, moderate: Cha Cha Cha
Congratulations on your long-term relationship! Cuban food always makes for a lively way to spice up date night. Drink way too many pitchers of sangria before you head home to make out, watch Netflix, and eat leftover fried plantains in bed. 1801 Haight St.
LTR, expensive: Magnolia Gastropub
It's surprisingly hard to find a truly expensive, let's-go-all-out dinner in the Haight, but you can still manage to ring up a sizable tab at Magnolia. Like any long-term relationship, there are things you love above Magnolia (good beer!) and some things that bug the crap out of you (it's so loud!), but you'll stick by it anyway. 1398 Haight St.
Breakup: Ice Cream Bar
When it's time to cut ties, what better place to do it than at the cold granite bar of an art deco-themed soda jerk? Break the news over a couple boozy dessert drinks and if there are sore feelings at the end of it all, at least you'll still have ice cream. 815 Cole St.
— Andrew Dalton
COW HOLLOW/ MARINA
Belga | Photo: Patricia Chang
First date, drinks: The Interval at Long Now
There is a lot at this intense cocktail bar to distract if needed: artifacts to look at, historical explanations to read, a 34-drink-long list to choose from. No matter which beverage you choose, the drinks are good, the vibes are relaxed, and there's some food to snack on. 2 Marina Blvd.
First date, coffee: La Boulangerie
San Franciscans all know and love this La Boulange reboot, with the same great sandwiches, salads, pastries, coffee, and tea. There are tons of tables to choose from and friendly vibes abound, though there will be a lot of people in workout clothes around you. 1909 Union St.
Second date, moderate: Belga
Belga has the lively atmosphere of a Belgian brasserie (the big front bar helps) in a breezy, California-style space. There's an impressive beer list and a menu of Belgian classics (think sausages, mussels, fries) if wanted. When it's nice out, try to sit near the front open windows open so you can people watch as needed. 2000 Union St.
Second date, expensive: A16
Easily the classiest restaurant in the neighborhood, A16's pizzas are the star here. Order your meal around the pies, and then fill it out with the stellar appetizers, salads, and pastas. Definitely get wine — and lots of it — and request a bar at the chef's counter so you can watch the action. 2355 Chestnut St.
Where to lock it down: Greens
In a neighborhood without a ton of special occasion spots, the vegetarian Greens is your best bet. And it's a good one, with solid food and a seriously killer view of the Bay. Make sure you get a window seat to alternate views of the Golden Gate and your brand-new SO's eyes. 2 Marina Blvd., Fort Mason Center
LTR, moderate: Off the Grid: Fort Mason or Presidio
Food trucks, live music, and drinks are the perfect way to spice up date night in a casual, very SF way. On Friday nights, OTG Fort Mason is a twinkling wonderland of quirky menus and music you can dance to, while Thursdays at the Presidio are super chill with fire pits and blankets. You can't go wrong with either. 2 Marina Blvd, Fort Mason Center; 122 Anza Ave.
LTR, expensive: Mina Test Kitchen
The concept changes at Mina Test Kitchen every three months, but you always know it's going to be good. So far there's been Mediterranean, Italian, Indian, and barbecue prix fixe food in three-month tenures. The decor is not exactly pretty, but the Mina-quality food, knowledgeable service, and interesting (in a good way) experience make up for it. 2120 Greenwich St.
Breakup spot: Horseshoe Tavern
No frills, no bullshit, no credit cards is the name of Horseshoe Tavern's game. Get in, do your business, and get out, then head to The Tipsy Pig down the street for some meat market action with your newly single status. 2024 Chestnut St.
— Stefanie Tuder
Dogpatch/ Potrero Hill
First date, drinks: Third Rail
A bar with a railway theme is a surprisingly good spot for a first date, where craft cocktails and mid-century vibes might help things pick up steam. The only food here is a variety of jerky (sold by the ounce), so either eat ahead of time or be prepared to get the dried meat sweats with a total stranger. 628 20th St.
First date, coffee: Provender
This super-small, friendly coffeeshop will get your hearts racing with Andytown espresso drinks, and light snacks, if that's what you're after. Grab your drinks and take a stroll through the neighborhood overlooking San Francisco. 1415 18th St.
Second date, moderate: Smokestack
Barbecue, beers, and whiskies are all on the menu here. It's a great opportunity to get over silly insecurities, while you've both got barbecue all over your hands (and probably all over your second best shirt). 2505 3rd St.
Piccino
Second date, expensive: Piccino
This adorable Italian-influenced restaurant is a lively spot for a second date, with a menu of pizzas and pastas for the sharing. Sit on the patio as the sun sets with a bottle of rosé for maximum enjoyment. 1001 Minnesota St.
Where to lock it down: Chez Maman
It's not the most expensive restaurant in the neighborhood, but it's romantic and homey in that French bistro way. Share escargot and beef tartare, and wash it all down with Champagne as you plan a trip to Paris together. 1401 18th St.
LTR, moderate: Mac Daddy
What's that, you say? You're a grown ass (wo)man and you don't eat macaroni and cheese for dinner anymore? Well, take a trip back to a more youthful, single state-of-mind with your partner in crime, and dig in to a bowl of mac bejeweled with short ribs, paired with a bottle of wine. 1453 18th St.
LTR, expensive: Serpentine
Like your relationship, Serpentine is steady and in it for the long haul, offering up simple but well-executed dishes like oven-roasted chicken. It's not an adventure, but it's a welcoming place to catch up with your significant other over a cocktail and one of SF's best burgers. 2495 Third St.
Breakup spot: The Ramp
Known for its bloody marys, The Ramp is a good place to bring a scorned lover in broad daylight. Have your "serious talk" by the water, where you can leave your ex gazing into the Bay, or at least have a getaway plan by boat locked down. 855 Terry A Francois Blvd.
— Ellen Fort
Embarcadero/ FINANCIAL DISTRICT
Akiko's, Leo's Oyster Bar, Waterbar | Photos: Akiko's/Facebook, Patricia Chang, Waterbar/Facebook
First date, drinks: The Barrel Room
The Financial District and Embarcadero can be full of expense account- and tourist-traps, but The Barrel Room is definitely neither. Get to know your new potential someone over a dignified glass of wine (or beer or something stronger, if you prefer) in a calm setting, where you can order food if that's where the evening takes you. 415 Sansome St.
First date, coffee: Mazarine
This being downtown, most coffee shops in this neighborhood are grab-and-go affairs. Not so with Mazarine, which has plenty of seating to choose from, an essential when it comes to date number one. Plus, if things really get going (or really go south, depending on your outlook), there's beer and wine on offer here, too. 720 Market St.
Second date, moderate: Barbacco
Reasonably priced Italian small plates and lots of wine in a bustling, pretty setting are solid starters for a great second date. The conversation's up to you, but Barbacco has the rest covered. 220 California St.
Second date, expensive: Leo's Oyster Bar
Inside Leo's, ferns hang from the ceiling, the bar glows gold, and splashy colors dominate the feel-good space. There are tons of pretty people eating pretty things here — besides the typical raw bar fare like oysters, clams, crab, shrimp, and lobster, the menu is full of caviar, crudo, uni — and decadence. Sip on champagne, slurp an oyster, and wow your date with your cool pick. 568 Sacramento St.
Where to lock it down: Waterbar
The view from luxe seafood spot Waterbar is all you need to signify serious. Located at the base of the Bay Bridge, the best time to go is at sunset, sitting on the heated patio while watching the sun go down and the bridge lights start to dance in front of you. 399 The Embarcadero
LTR, moderate: Ferry Building
When's the last time you wandered through the Ferry Building? The vendors have only gotten even better, and the best time to go is on Saturday mornings to fully enjoy the farmers market. Prep yourself with patience for the inevitable crowds, but if you go with the right expectations, the outing can turn into a fun, all-day way to rediscover what you love so much about this city. 1 Ferry Building
LTR, expensive: Akiko's
With chefs who have worked at some of the country's best sushi spots (Sushi Ran, Ota, etc.) and with details such as Japanese applewood-aged soy sauce, Akiko's takes its sushi very seriously. The huge key here, though, is being sure to sit at the sushi bar — the vibe just isn't as good at the tables. Then, simply put yourself in the hands of the sushi chefs behind the bar and freak out with your SO over the expert nigiri. 431 Bush St.
Breakup spot: Irish Times
So long as you don't go during a sports game, Irish Times has the quick in-and-out service, simple drinks, and the somewhat private space you need to cut the cord. 500 Sacramento St.
— Stefanie Tuder
Hayes Valley/ Mid-Market
First date, drinks: Mr. Tipples
Live music may seem too loud for a first date, but the upbeat jazz (no cover) and lively scene at Mr. Tipples will work in your favor in this case. Over snacks and expert cocktails from the Maven team you can either have such a good time that you end up dancing, or be grateful for the music to fill the space if conversation falls silent. 39 Fell St.
First date, coffee: Ritual/Smitten or Cafe La Vie
Choose from Ritual coffee or Smitten ice cream in Patricias Green park, or — pro move — go to both and make an affogato to enjoy while you sit in the grass and learn everything there is to know about each other. Bad weather? Just walk on over to family-owned Cafe La Vie (514 Octavia St.), where charmingly small tables will get you appropriately close. 432 Octavia St.; 514 Octavia St.
Second date, moderate: Absinthe
Absinthe is that perfect restaurant that fits into so many life occasions. In this case, its lively bar, familiar menu, and killer cocktails add a twinkle that makes second dates seem special. Hopefully you'll start with cocktails and some shared plates only to linger over a bottle of wine. 398 Hayes St.
Second date, expensive: Zuni Cafe
San Francisco's iconic roast chicken restaurant will do much of the work of charming your date for you. No matter where you sit in its five disparate areas, the vibes and lighting make it feel good to be there. Ice cold oysters and bubbly champagne are the right way to start off the night (or day!), followed by — obviously — the chicken, though be forewarned that it takes an hour to prepare, so you better have your talking points ready. 1658 Market St.
Where to lock it down: Petit Crenn
Queen bee/SF chef Dominique Crenn's second, more casual venture is a dinner party of a restaurant, where the kitchen takes you on a journey to Crenn's French hometown Brittany. Go along for the multi-course, wood-fired meal ride, being sure to pair it with a few bottles of wine from the all-natural list. Crenn knows how to do it right, so though the restaurant has a more low-key vibe than her original fine dining temple Atelier Crenn, you'll still walk away feeling wowed. 609 Hayes St.
LTR, moderate: Rich Table
The food you eat at Rich Table is unlike any other in the city, yet also fits right in. The multi-ingredient, innovative dishes don't seem to make much sense on the menu, but come together on first bite. It's a fun experience that will get you and your partner vibing on new flavors. 199 Gough St.
LTR, expensive: Cala
Chances are the two of you are dying to make it to Mexico City. Instead, head to Cala, where the Mexico City-native chef brings fresh flavors to the table. Be sure to get the mussels over toast and the charred sweet potato with bone marrow salsa negra. 149 Fell St.
Breakup spot: Brass Tacks
As long as it's not a Friday or Saturday night, Brass Tacks will be just dark enough to hide, just empty enough to not make a scene, just full enough to not attract attention, and just sticky enough to ensure there won't be a rambling conversation. 488A Hayes St.
— Stefanie Tuder
LAUREL/ PACIFIC/ PRESIDIO HEIGHTS
First date, drinks: Fat Angel
With a friendly neighborhood vibe and an extensive wine and beer list, Fat Angel will let you show off your wine or beer knowledge without adding to the first-date pressure. And, assuming things are going nicely, a nice menu of charcuterie and small plates will keep the two of you at the table long enough to split another bottle. 1740 O'Farrell St.
First date, coffee: Jane
The bustling vibe and clean, modern decor make Jane an inviting place for getting to know each other over a pastry or two. Grab one of the banquette tables near the front, or stake out an intimate spot in the loungy mezzanine and talk about how ridiculous it is that toast is still a thing. 2123 Fillmore St.
Second date, moderate: Academy Bar & Kitchen
If date two feels like it should be more low key than spendy, this rustic but unpretentious neighborhood spot will have you covered in the pizza and beer department, without skipping straight to Netflix & chill mode. Chef Nick Pallone moved down the street from his former post at Florio, and his emphasis on local ingredients, housemade charcuterie, and Neapolitan pies hits all the right notes without breaking the bank. A well-rounded lineup of craft beers and a modest, but nicely affordable wine list certainly doesn't hurt, either. 1800 Fillmore St.
Second date, expensive: The Progress
Despite the hype around its sister restaurant State Bird Provisions, it can be surprisingly easy to snag a spot at the bar at The Progress. Go on the early side, but take your time and let the staff guide you through a menu that chef Stuart Brioza and co. call "the greatest dinner party ever." 1525 Fillmore St.
Where to lock it down: Nico
A hidden gem in Laurel Heights, Nico's inventive, five-course prix fixe menu changes nightly but always feels like a special occasion. Intimate and familiar, yet always fresh — the perfect spot to show you're serious about somebody, without adding the unnecessary gravitas of a big destination dinner. 3228 Sacramento St.
LTR, moderate: Pizzeria Delfina
Pizza makes for an unimpeachable date night standby, and Delfina makes inarguably solid Neapolitan-style pies. The vibe is nice enough to feel like a night out, but just neighborhood-y enough to feel comfortable. Get an extra salsiccia pie for bedtime snacking later. 2406 California St.
LTR, expensive: SPQR
So, you've been together a while. It's time to go all-out on a high-end, white tablecloth Italian dinner and spare no expense on the wine. Perfect for anniversary celebrations or question-popping. 1911 Fillmore St.
Breakup spot: Swank
The mid-century-inspired lobby bar at the Laurel Inn has a low-key vibe that will give you the Don Draper-sized ego you need to break the harsh news. Be forewarned though: The martinis here are voluminous and would look very dramatic being thrown in someone's face. 444 Presidio Ave.
— Andrew Dalton
Mission
Foreign Cinema
First date, drinks: ABV
ABV just might be the most perfect first date spot in the entire city. Always-stellar cocktails, friendly bartenders, plenty of seating, a buzzy crowd, and better-than-average bar bites are ABV's winning formula. 3174 16th St.
First date, coffee: Coffee Bar
No coffee shop has more seating than Coffee Bar, which will give you and your date plenty of options to choose from, whether it's at tables upstairs or downstairs, the second floor counter overlooking the space, or at tables out front. There are even some couches to cozy up on — should you be so lucky — while sipping the great Mr. Espresso brew. 1890 Bryant St.
Second date, moderate: Izakaya Rintaro
With a Chez Panisse veteran at the helm, expect top-notch local produce and serious attention to detail — all filtered through a traditional Japanese lens. There is one very serious caveat to having a date here: you must, must, must sit at the chef's counter overlooking the kitchen. The back room is a good vibes dead zone, and watching the yakitori chef work the grill from your perch at the counter is perfect second date fodder. 82 14th St.
Second date, expensive: Delfina
This seasoned Northern Italian restaurant is an expert in hospitality, providing everything you need for a successful second date: good, shareable food (Delfina's California take on Italian dishes pleases picky people and discerning eaters alike), solid wine, and some romantic, vibrant vibes. 3621 18th St.
Where to lock it down: Californios
Californios is the most underrated tasting menu destination in San Francisco; taking someone here will make you seem very in the know. The Mexican food is surprising (when's the last time you had aerated beans?), the decor is stylish, the service is spot-on. Make sure you get the inventive wine and beer pairings, too. 3115 22nd St.
LTR, moderate: Foreign Cinema
Let's set the Foreign Cinema scene: a flickering hearth, twinkling lights, classic movie projected on the wall, solid drinks, delicious Mediterranean-leaning food, and attentive service. You can't manufacture romance like this, so inject some into your LTR, and head here for dinner. 2534 Mission St.
LTR, expensive: Bar Tartine
You're in for a real treat at Bar Tartine, where the freshest local produce gets the fermented and brined treatment, resulting in flavors and combinations you've never had before. Experience the delight with your SO in the proper way — with the full tasting menu. 561 Valencia St.
Breakup spot: Evil Eye
The brand-new Evil Eye has a ton of couches; choose one to deliver your message. Hopefully the evil eye will protect you while you do. 2937 Mission St.
— Stefanie Tuder
NOB HILL/ RUSSIAN HILL/ TENDERLOIN
First date, drinks: Union Larder
Union Larder sets the bar for wine bars in San Francisco, with its glowy interior, excellent wine list, and just-enough food menu. It's casual and comfortable inside, and you'll likely encounter plenty of other first dates, but there's a reason for that. And that reason is because it's a great first date spot. 1945 Hyde St.
First date, coffee: Nook
Watch the cable cars go by and talk about how much you love San Francisco while getting to know this brand-new person. There are plenty of snacks to order if you're hungry, or just grab some coffee and call it a date. 1500 Hyde St.
Second date, moderate: Huxley
Your date will be impressed when you enter this 25-seat American charmer, practically hidden in the Tenderloin. Yes, it's intimate, but the kitchen is open, which adds plenty of action to the room. 846 Geary St.
Whitechapel | Photo: Patricia Chang
Second date, expensive: Whitechapel
Enter another world when you walk into Whitechapel, a highly-themed gin bar fashioned to look like an abandoned London Underground station and distillery. There's a lengthy list of gin-based cocktails, and the food is Bangladeshi-inspired pub fare, like mussels vindaloo and pakoras with spicy lime pickle, Asian pear, and lassi bubbles. It's a fun, crazy atmosphere that will definitely leave a mark. 600 Polk St.
Where to lock it down: Acquerello
This white-tableclothed, Italian fine dining temple may not be the hippest thing around, but you're going to get treated real right and eat some delicious pasta with incredible wine. And this is a special occasion, right? So put your khakis and your dresses on and act like it. 1722 Sacramento St.
LTR, moderate: Liholiho Yacht Club
Nailing a prime-time reservation at Liholiho Yacht Club requires some advance planning, so sync your calendars and pick a date a few weeks out to experience the inventive Hawaiian-Indian-NorCal cuisine that's had San Franciscans waiting in line for over a year. If you're in a more last-minute situation, as long as you go in knowing there's a wait, it can be part of the event. Stalk the bar for seats to open up, or just accept the time for a table and head down the block to Pacific Cocktail Haven (580 Sutter St.) for a pre-dinner drink (or three). 871 Sutter St.
LTR, expensive: La Folie Lounge
The lounge at La Folie is the more casual younger sister of French fine dining restaurant La Folie, located just next door. At the lounge, you can experience the best of La Folie, without the sticker shock. It's the same great service, and you can order La Folie food a la carte here. It will still cost you (just not as much), and still be very special (just with a little more flexibility). 2316 Polk St.
Breakup spot: Owl Tree
Grab a drink at the bar and then head to the small tables with leather couches in the back of Owl Tree and tell your SO it's not you, it's me. There's enough privacy back there to afford you the space you need to get the job done. 601 Post St.
— Stefanie Tuder
NoPa
First date, drinks: Horsefeather
NoPa now has its very own cocktail bar in a gorgeous, wood-paneled space with tons of seating and an atrium up front for when it's nice out (though there are heaters for cooler weather, too). The drinks all come in beautiful barware, though we recommend sticking to the classics instead of some of the more complicated menu creations. 528 Divisadero St.
First date, coffee: The Mill
The Mill is a coffee shop workhorse, but there are tables to snag both inside and out on the parklet, so you can make it work for you. Get some $4 toast and a coffee, then talk about how ridiculous this toast trend is and you're set. 736 Divisadero St.
Second date, moderate: Ragazza
Everyone loves the pizzas at Ragazza, which has been an Italian neighborhood standby since 2011. Splits some pies and a few bottles of wine and reach second date nirvana — just make sure you go later in the evening after the kiddies have cleared out, and arrive earlier than your date to wait for a table, since there are no reservations. 311 Divisadero St.
Second date, expensive: Bistro Central Parc
To Americans, there's almost nothing more romantic than Paris, and Bistro Central Parc transports you to the dreamy city. Romance abounds in the twinkly ceiling, simple French fare, and Old World wine list meant for exploring. Do a little wine research beforehand to thoroughly impress your date. 560 Central Ave.
Where to lock it down: Ijji
Ijji has quietly become one of the best spots for sushi in the city, with friendly chefs and a lighthearted, approachable atmosphere, despite a serious focus on the fish. The attention to detail and mouthwatering bites — and $200 to $300 per couple price tag for omakase, depending how baller you go — make this a definite special occasion restaurant, so make it count for when you're ready for this next-level celebration. 252 Divisadero St.
LTR, moderate: Bar Crudo
Ten years in, Bar Crudo is still the perfect seafood spot. Reserve a table downstairs, where there's more light and you have viewing access to the open kitchen. For a super casual date, happy hour is always a popular draw, too, when there are dollar oysters and more discounted food and drink. 655 Divisadero St.
LTR, expensive: Nopa
Let's face it: Unless you're a super-regular, you're not getting a prime-time reservation at Nopa. So, make a night of it and submit to the wait. Head to the bar for snacks and drinks to pass the time, or scoot next door to Horsefeather. Once you're sitting down, all will feel right when you gorge on the pleasing menu and dive deep into wine director Lulu McAllister's excellent wine list. 560 Divisadero St.
Breakup spot: The Page
There are a lot of nooks to tuck into at The Page, a cash-only dive on Divis. Pick one, order a whiskey on the rocks for strength, and get it over with. 298 Divisadero St.
— Stefanie Tuder
Oakland
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First date, drinks: Ordinaire
At this combo bar and wine shop, friendly and unpretentious dudes will ply you with expert knowledge of funky, offbeat wines that can be purchased by the glass. If the date goes well, buy a bottle off the shelf and drink it at a dimly-lit table over some prosciutto and cheese. 3354 Grand Ave.
First date, coffee: W.C. Morse Café
Blue Bottle coffee, light snacks, and sugary waffles are the building blocks to any good relationship. Combined with high ceilings, huge windows, and gleaming white tile, this historic building is a pleasant place to get to know one another. Plus, the fact that there aren't hordes of laptoppers silently using Wi-Fi here (there isn't any) makes it fertile ground for conversation. 4270 Broadway Ave.
Second date, moderate: A16 Rockridge
Snuggled into Rockridge's main drag, A16 is a great upgrade for a second date. Share pizzas, spirituous cocktails, and antipasti by the glow of the pizza oven, or while looking out onto the idyllic neighborhood streets. 5356 College Ave.
Second date, expensive: Haven
Down by the waterfront, Haven is a cozy neighborhood gem (that happens to be in Jack London Square). Dinner is a prix-fixe (three or four courses) of seasonal, family-style food that will hopefully get everyone on the same page. Sharing is caring, and you might as well get that out of the way on the second date. Jack London Square, 44 Webster St.
Where to lock it down: Commis
The only two-Michelin-starred restaurant in the East Bay is an obvious choice, and one of the grander gestures available. It's a relaxed vibe with super precise, flavorful food — make a reservation at the chef's counter for a memorable experience and a first-hand look at the action. 3859 Piedmont Ave.
LTR, moderate: Ramen Shop
Waiting in line can be a strain on a new relationship, but a couple well-versed in each other's mood swings can certainly make it to dinner at this bustling neighborhood spot. Grab one of the excellent cocktails and a snack in the bar, and prepare for ramen greatness. 5812 College Ave.
LTR, expensive: Camino
Just because you've been together forever doesn't mean you have to be boring. This rustic, chill spot offers some of Oakland's best food straight from the wood-fired hearth. It's cozy and upscale, making it the perfect place to catch up over craft cocktails, rosé, and whole-roasted Dungeness crab (when in season). 3917 Grand Ave.
Breakup spot: The Alley
Breaking up to the sweet sounds of Rod Dibble's piano playing is one of the more poetic ways to end a relationship. This divey saloon is dark, with private booths and stiff drinks, making it the perfect place to cut ties. 3325 Grand Ave.
— Ellen Fort
THE RICHMOND
First date, drinks: High Treason
Skylights provide nice light at this art-filled wine bar from alums of Restaurant at Meadowood, Quince, and Gary Danko. Even if you don't know much about wine, the staff is well-informed and helpful while guiding you through their list of by-the-glass selections, and there are snacks from cured meats and cheese plates to gooey croquettes. High Treason doubles as a retail shop in case you need to get a bottle for the after-party. 443 Clement St.
First date, coffee: Marla Bakery
The backyard of this adorable bakery was the site of owners' Amy Brown and Joe Wolf’s 2014 wedding, so it's infused with good romantic vibes. The multi-tiered deck and patio, designed by Paxton Gate, offer plenty of opportunity for privacy. Even if it ends up not being a love match, you've at least gotten a chance to eat Marla Bakery’s excellent sticky buns, cardamom coffee cake, and English muffins, or more substantial meals like salads and lamb confit soup. 3619 Balboa St.
Second date, moderate: Pizzetta 211
It's easy to forget about this tucked-away spot on California Street, which consistently offers some of the city's best thin-crust pizza. The room is tiny — make sure you meet up after the family rush to avoid kiddos — but there isn't as much of a wait on weekdays, and even if you have to camp out they hand out blankets and drinks. Its weekly changing menu includes the usual suspects like margherita, and pies with more exotic toppings like egg with fingerling potatoes and creme fraiche or buffalo sausage with blue cheese. 211 23rd Ave.
Second date, expensive: Cassava
This cozy Outer Richmond restaurant serves a nightly tasting menu offering modern California cuisine, with beautifully plated items like house-made squid ink pasta with poached egg, black cod compressed with black olives, and sesame pot du creme. Each can be paired with wine or a non-alcoholic beverage, and there's a regular menu of apps and entrees if you don't want to go full tasting. Inside, the dining room has soothing blue walls, subway tile, and a dramatic stripped tree sculpture; if it's nice, you can sit outside at sidewalk tables. 3519 Balboa St.
Where to lock it down: Wako
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