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Jesse: Dealing with recent separation from his wife of 25 years.
Michelle: Her father was abusive; mother offered the suffering as a sacrifice.
Mary: Help with finding a therapist for her 30 year-old daughter.
Anonymous: His marriage of 8 years has had a lot of trouble; his wife was physically & emotionally abusive and even had an affair. He gave his wife an ultimatum (“stop the abuse or I’m gone”) and by putting God in the marriage — today it is healed.
Katie: Has been in an abusive marriage for 18 years; for the sake of her children, she finally told her husband to not come home; now the kids miss him and are telling her they want dad back. Is there hope for the marriage to heal?
Renee: How long does someone stay in a bad relationship?
Radiating love for others NEVER hurts us. Expecting love in return is what gets us into trouble. — PSandoval
Resources
The Controlling & Mistrustful Spouse
The tendency to control a spouse can emerge slowly in response to hurts or character weaknesses or it can be present at the very beginning of a marriage. This serious personality conflict creates a great deal of tension and unhappiness in a married life. TheCatechism of the Catholic Church, n. 1606, speaks to this challenge, “Their (marital) union has always been threatened by discord, a spirit of domination, infidelity, jealousy, and conflicts that can scale into hatred and separation.” Read more: www.maritalhealing.com
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, by Howard Lambert, Ph.D.
According to John Gottman, Ph.D., “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” are behaviors that, if they occur regularly, are very good predictors of either a failed or a terminally unhappy relationship. If you discover that any of these occur often in your relationship, you and your partner are most likely heading for trouble. Criticism/Contempt/Defensiveness/Stonewalling READ MORE: www.relationshipresourcecenter.com
Suicide, www.psychologytoday.com
Healing After Divorce: Hope for Catholics, by Susan K. Rowland
The most difficult aspect of divorce could be trying to comprehend God’s place in what might seem to be hell. Rowland contends that if a person is open to God’s mysterious workings, that person will discover God’s action at every step, beginning with decision time, during periods of helplessness and insecurity, and through the long healing necessitated by the strain. READ MORE: www.foryourmarriage.org
Healing the Emotionally Abusive Marriage, by Mary J. Yerkes
Emotional abuse is rampant in our culture, and Christians are not immune. While all emotionally abusive relationships exact a toll on their victims, this type of domestic abuse within marriage is particularly destructive. The intimate nature of the marriage relationship presents unique challenges. READ MORE: www.focusonthefamily.com
Retrouvaille
The word Retrouvaille™ (pronounced re-tro-vi with a long i.) is a French word meaning rediscovery. The program offers tools needed to rediscover a loving marriage relationship. Thousands of couples headed for cold, unloving relationships or divorce have successfully overcome their marriage problems by attending the program. READ MORE: www.retrouvaille.org