hxmoerotic:
hxmoerotic:
Y'all understand that it is literally not possible for gay couples to be heteronormative. A masculine gay man dating a feminine gay man isn’t heteronormative. A butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian isn’t heteronormative. They’re fucking gay. Telling gay people they’re somehow enforcing heteronormativity by being themselves and dating another gay person is nasty and ridiculous.
God I think the problem you nasties have is you all think gay people are by default constantly trying to copy straight people. Like listen, I’m a masculine gay man, I have a bit of a preference for feminine men. A lot of you would say I’m enforcing heteronormativity, or maybe I’m trying to be straight, when in reality I just think feminine men are cute. That’s literally it.
The problem isn’t that i, a masculine man, like feminine men, the problem is the way straight people view gay relationships. Straight people see themselves as the default, so when they see a masculine man dating a feminine man, or a butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian, their first thought is “oh, they’re trying to copy us.” Even if two feminine men date or two butch lesbians date, straight people still look at them and try to find out who’s the “man” and who’s the “woman.”
Gay people aren’t the problem, the problem is the way straight people view our relationships.