When you are in love, life can feel so wonderful. The sky seems bluer, and the sun seems to shine brightly. Your friends comment on the permanent smile you have on your face, and you feel so happy. The relationship continues to blossom, and you eventually declare your lifelong love for each other at the altar. After a few more years, you could have a house and a couple of children, but the spark you felt in the beginning may have faded.
Many couples who have been married for several years question if they are in the right relationship. We live in an overpopulated world, so there is always going to be temptation. As we age, our tastes change as well. There are plenty of ways you can try to rekindle the love between you. You may also want to try marriage counselling to determine what in your lives is making your marriage unhappy. Of course, if one of you has strayed or chosen to move on, there may be nothing left to do but seek a legal separation.
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Divorce is unpleasant even when it is amicable. There is so much legal paperwork to get through, and dividing assets can always lead to arguments. The best way to approach divorce is for both of you to use divorce lawyers. This means you can step back and let them get on with the hassle of form filling and filing. Emotions run high when couples break up so having someone there to do the work for you alleviates your stress and upset.
When divorce breaks up a family, it can be very easy to start battling over the custody of the children. Most families agree to share custody equally, but it only takes one late drop-off, or an early pick up to start a fight. It is important that you all lay down the rules of the custody. Help your children feel secure with the situation you are now in, by taking time out to spend with them. Sometimes chatting about it is enough, but some children feel very emotional about a family split. They may need more assurance from both of you that this isn’t their fault.
Everybody says divorce is toughest on the kids, but it is really hard on the parents too. Divorce means you are losing your soul mate, your best friend, and the love of your life. It makes this loss real and final, and that can be emotionally devastating. Even if the spark in your marriage disappeared long ago, the signed papers might only be the start of your grieving process. Give yourself some time and space while you come to terms with what is happening.
Even when you are divorcing your husband to be with a new partner, the process of ending a marriage hurts. It takes time to adjust to your new life and to help your children feel secure in their new situation. While it may be unpleasant now, life does move on, and your whole family can be happy again.