The recent mass shooting by Elliot Rodger is a teachable opportunity for sistas to review the modern culture of lame black males and the activities these brothas are engaged in that can be harmful to our sistas. The Pickup Artist or PUA subculture online is a structured threat not mostly against grown sistas but against young sistas who are targeted by young black boys and older black men looking to take advantage of our young sistas with some nonsense called “game” and older sistas have to deal with this black male PUA to protect our little girls.
Black women need to understand that sistas are structurally targeted by people inside the black community, even black women like Cathy Hughes at Radio One – she ain’t your damn friend. These black radio stations play negative songs degrading and objectifying women to target the young black male to just believe he can “game these hoes” and you see the music videos of cats portraying the same scenario with women. You watch black movies, even Tyler Perry crap and it’s all about some kind of scripted encounter of a brotha and a sista – Tyler Perry ain’t your damn friend either. So there is a constant mainstream media propaganda out there that portray black women as easy to get if a brotha just do this or do that. I won’t even talk about Essence magazine telling sistas a place to meet brothas is at a strip club.
And I’m going to share my personal experience which is most >95% black women are complicit as hell enabling black male PUA culture to the point I have difficulty dealing with African-American women. A lot of black women are conditioned to believe that “Jesus will bring her a man” and she sitting there waiting for some guy to approach her. I’m testifying as a real black man – black women are sitting around waiting for me to approach them with some damn “game” instead of her approaching me and I’m approaching her mutually. I wrote about this a long time ago in frustration sharing my experience with Asian and African and Latino sistas approaching me and we hit it off. But I see black woman just sitting over there appearing interested in me but got that look like she expecting me to approach her and drop some “game” and ish. So let’s not ignore the fact that some black women are conditioned to enable PUA activity among black men and think this is how a black man should approach a black women, using “game”.
Let me make something damn clear – there is no “game” and why cultures have arranged marriages and also have love festivals where men can court women because there is a community structure setting to put good brothas with good sistas. And because we do not have this structure in our black culture here in America [they have this in other black cultures around the world], we got clowns talking about “game” and crap. Do you see the Brazilian black brothas talking about running “game” on their sistas? Yeah, thought so. PUA in the black community is promoting anti-black love and we better fight for black love here in America and not tolerate this crap.
So how did PUA manifest over the Internet? Basically, it is simple – when a brotha who can’t get a chick see another brotha with a chick that he want so bad, that lame brotha start wondering why is she with him? What did he do to get a girl like that? That happens with me all the time here in Atlanta as I’m not muscle built and got a little pot-belly but when I’m walking around with a big booty sista wearing only a sundress, thong and flip-flops these brothas be looking at my girl like why she with him? That is where all this PUA nonsense begin.
The lame brothas objectified my girl or any pretty girl hanging with a dude as a dumb b*tch who chose that dude “game” over his “game” and he believe he had better “game” to offer her. So him and the rest of the lame brothas hook up online and create a PUA culture that talks about how they think they can manipulate women with “game” and make a woman see things his way. I’m pretty sure they talking about macking hoes, playing with these chicks mind and all that other sissy ass crap before going into their bathroom, jerk off and go to bed. These PUA dudes are too stupid to realize the reason my girl is with me is because she has a mind of her own and have the freedom to choose who she want to be with. But a PUA dude strongly believe his “game” or “mack lessons” can get a chick and he bragging to other dudes instead of just being friends and cool with a sista.
However, in the black community the sistas must understand that the PUA characters will target the path to least resistance and that is the young black sistas in their young teenage years. This is who the PUA characters will bring their so-call game too, driving around in cars, flashing jewelry and cash and the young sistas are conditioned to believe that a brotha need to have “game” to get with her. The other scenario is where the ghetto boys are sitting around talking their PUA “mack game” and how they can get p*ssy and start naming girls they can get. All of this is structured game targeting a young black woman during her teenage and young woman years by the black community, with Cathy Hughes and Radio One playing songs portraying young sistas as objects to have sex with and hang on a brotha shoulder as a trophy.
So how can the sistas deal with PUA in the black community? We have to realize that PUA culture in the black community prey mostly upon young black sistas and these young sistas become trapped by becoming strippers chasing money, dating drug dealers, getting pregnant and messing around with older perverted men. We have to teach the young brothas about PUA culture because young brothas can easily believe he need to run “game” on a young sista instead of just being a good friend or have things in common other than getting some from each other.
Black Women Have to Collectively Fight Negative Media Against Black Women. If black women do not take a stand right here and right now against negative black media, everything else do not mean shit. If a black woman cannot show the younger sistas she is fighting the fight, the younger sistas will not respect her or whatever she say or try to do. Black women need to stop supporting these negative black radio stations and start collectively and vocally boycotting and show they give a damn about young sistas. The best way to win over young sistas is to fight a perceive enemy of young sistas – make black media that enemy of the young sista and you older sistas get together and fight and fight hard.
Young Sistas Need to be Taught About the Game. Please teach the young sistas to not believe brothas should approach her with game. In fact, you need to take the initiative and strong initiative to teach the younger sista that she is in control of her life and who she should be with. Teach the young sista how to detect a quality brotha and teach her how to make herself available to a good brotha and have a conversation, even if she had to start it. Eliminate the whole concept in the black community that some black dude bringing “game” and trying to sing like he Tyrese and ish is the kind of guy a young sista should wait for and respond to.
Young Brothas Need to be Taught How to Be Friends First. Young black men has been conditioned to view black women as a booty quest and you see the online videos where you see young black men chanting “d*ck her pass” and that’s the culture young sistas have to live in. So when a young guy approach a chick looking for booty and she says “let’s be friends” and he takes that as a rejection and resent her. To avoid this whole setup, teach the young brotha to take the initiative to be friends with sistas first. Teach brothas that he should learn to grow a relationship and also it is helpful he do this to avoid getting a crazy ass chick pregnant and deal with her nonsense for the next 18 years.
Nothing But Quality Brothas. Teach young sistas how to find quality brothas. Take her to the airport and let her look at quality brothas taking flights around the country. Screw church and those fake snake in the grass religious brothas – take the young sista to events where you see brothas dedicated to crafts, art, volunteering for a cause and let her see what real quality brothas look like. And you sistas need to stop dating these knuckleheads around young sistas talking about he got muscles and other superficial dumb ass shit that ends up with black culture having dysfunctional families and unhappy broken lives. The number one problem with black women is they never been taught to recognize a quality brotha and she working off physical look, shallow assumptions and perceptions.
Teach the Young Sista to Be Independent and Not Clique Up. When your sista become part of a girlfriend clique, she definitely set herself up to be approached only with “game” but the worst kind of game. Now dudes are cool with one girl in the clique who working the young sista to give it up to a brotha at her school and the young sista is sexually pressured to stay in the in-crowd. Instead, teach the young sista to be independent and have a wide net of friends and don’t get caught up in a clique. Be very f*cking explicit when talking to a young sista about cliques and describe what they are and the damage and why she should be her own woman.
Remember that is sistas are both the enabler and disabler of these PUA characters. The sistas have to work and take seriously the PUA culture in the black community because black PUA targets young black sistas for marginalization through teen pregnancy. Upcoming Hustle Space magazine has a special section already reserved for young sistas in our youth edition on how to live a teenage girl life free of sexual pressures and avoiding negative media and influences as a young black teenage girl. Both the real brothas and the real sistas out there got to stop this cycle of PUA against our black girls and we got to do our part.
But most important and this is what I’m going to end this article with – we cannot have just one single mom talking to her daughter, you need at least 17 to 20 grown black women talking to that daughter and real-talking that young sista into not falling into the trap of these lame PUA brothas targeting young girls. It going to take an army of sistas to deal with a young sista – don’t let one mother fight by herself because it will be a personal battle that mother cannot win. I cannot say much about the PUA brothas because the truth is, if the sistas do not fight this battle and realize they hold the cards, then it is the sistas who are allowing the PUA culture in the black community to target and marginalize our young sistas.