5 Simple Steps to Not Being a Total Asshole
Listen: You’re an asshole. It’s who you are. But lately you look around and you see your fellow men peacefully coexisting with one another skipping through meadows, riding tandem bicycles, and just generally not being total cunts all the time and you want a piece of that action. The only problem is: You just don’t know how to go about not being a complete shithead. Where does one even start? Well, I’m here to help. If you are an asshole, suspect you might be an asshole, or just know an asshole who could use some help, read on to learn how
cheap Michael Kors handbags outlet to take the first little steps toward a normal life, bereft of scorn and shell necklaces.
1. Stop Hiding Behind the "Alpha" LabelYou are not an alpha male; you’re just being marketed to. Some jaded hipster dickhead in lensless eyeglasses that cost more than your house used the entire "alpha" movement to sell you energy drinks and those shirts that look like douchebag scrimshaw.
Human beings are not wolves. We’re not even pack hunters anymore. Modern society has no place for an alpha, a beta, or anything resembling a carnivorous predatory social structure. "Alpha" is just a positive sounding synonym for "asshole," and it is not an acceptable excuse for behaving like a cocksock, because the sad reality is, there is never an excuse for behaving like a cocksock. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? If there were some social theory, psychological disorder, or gypsy curse you could use to excuse your off putting behavior? It sure would. But there never has been, and
fake Michael Kors there never will be. It was all a giant lie sold to you by Big Energy to trick you into a mild stimulant addiction, an untruth you received free with every three pack of TapouT shirts.
I understand why it seems reasonable at first. What is an alpha male if not a beloved antihero, a Wolverine or Han Solo type? Did you agree with that statement? You shouldn’t have. It was a trick. See, the alpha mentality slipped through our cultural defenses on the back of an actual truth: Confidence and, yes, even cockiness is attractive.
Here’s the difference: An alpha male embraces the label because he secretly suspects that he might be a face full of dicks and he needs a way to spin that into a positive thing. A confident man would shun the very concept of labels because he knows that that’s the shit insecure people use to feel accepted. The very second you open your mouth to self identify as "alpha," you’re admitting that you’re too insecure to face life alone and on your own terms. You’re giving everybody who speaks to you a disclaimer: "I’m going to be a dick to you, and here’s why it’s OK and you still have to like me." A truly confident man would never give enough of a shit to make that statement.
Being an asshole is like being an alcoholic: The first and most important step is realizing and admitting it. You’re not a party animal if you’re throwing up rotgut in the parking lot of a Circle K, and you’re not an "alpha" if you’re harassing uninterested women and trying to start fights with the smallest guy at the bar.
2. Realize Empathy Is Not Just for PussiesEmpathy has a bad PR department. It seems like something that should be taught by a soft spoken man in a pastel room that doubles as a yoga studio on weekends. Empathy is for pussies, and that’s why you only hear people advocating it in weak, begging tones.
"Have some empathy," the Rick Moranis lookin’ dude pleads, as you headbutt his wife into submission for looking too long at your neck tattoo.
Besides, you, the
fake Michael Kors asshole, are probably most comfortable displaying strong, negative emotions. You don’t cry; you rage. That’s fine (I mean, not overall that’s a crippling emotional problem that’s going to shatter your entire life if left unattended), but we’re starting small here. You can empathize with any emotion, so start with the only one you deem acceptable: self righteous fury. Next time you’re bro ing out in a bar or passive aggressively belittling your co workers, just think of how much you would bitch about that happening should your roles be reversed. How would you tell the anecdote to your friends, later in the day, if you two switched places? Would you be the villain in
Cheap Michael Kors handbags his story? If so, knock it off. That’s empathy! It’s that
Michael Kors handbags easy! Using this simple trick, even the most twisted sociopath can pass as a normal!
But damn, now that you’ve objectively realized you’re being an asshole, what’s the out? How do you stop? You’re far too insecure to man up and apologize (that’s OK, that’s a pretty advanced step), so for now, try yelling something nonsensical and storming off. Pick a line, any line, from the Full House theme song, yell it in indignant fury, and then walk away.
"It’s a rare condition, this day and age, to read any good news on the newspaper page, fucker!"
It will give the other party something to think about. Hopefully they’ll be too distracted by the non sequitur to dwell on what an unreasonable prick you were being. Or at the very least, they’ll think you were having a mild stroke and therefore they cannot hold your prior outbursts against you.
3. Make Sure Others Know and Understand Your Internal RulesLet’s get personal: I am an asshole.
Why else would I try to help you, my people? Oh, I don’t drive a truck with balls on the hitch or try to fight strangers in bars or anything. But I’m an asshole nonetheless, because I have a very strict set of internal rules for how a respectful and decent human being should operate, and if you violate any of those rules, I will completely write you off from now until the heat death of the universe.
Now, the
cheap Michael Kors rule thing on its own? That’s fine. That’s how society operates with a set of expectations we all have to meet to be considered valuable members. The problem arises when you start harboring private rules: Rules that only you know about and agree to adhere to, but that you still use to judge others.
How were those callous, discourteous rule breakers informed of the law? Was there a sign above the entrance to the mall that said "slow walkers to the left, please"? Did they take a class on the appropriate volume to speak in a public place? Some of us agree on these unspoken rules, sure, but we never
cheap michael kors consider that the offending party has no idea they’re even transgressing. Hence the really confused look on their faces as I dive tackle them into the salad bar for using their fingers instead of the tongs which are right fucking there, seriously.
If you’re going to get pissed at somebody because he beats you off the line at a stoplight, stop and consider: Does he even know he’s racing your F 350, or is he simply trying to race a savage case of diarrhea to a safe, non judgmental waste space? That dude talking to the girl you like does he know you consider that a punchable offense? Does he even know you were talking to her earlier?
Until you reach the point where you can liberate yourself from your own self righteous rule sets, at least you can treat it as ignorance and not disrespect if people break them. If they’re really obvious rules, however if somebody, for example, merges onto
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