李笨t posted an update: = a attract programmers fall in love is far better than to seek more effective ;n ;n ;n officially began to discuss how to fall in love ( or how to flirt with hot chicks ) this topic, let me tell you the very important point : the concept is very important !n why do you say so ?Simply because our behavior is largely driven by our idea .
That is because complex ... ... Feel shy ,Sometimes, I lost,in fact ,I would simply say .Specific theories we did not say, also believe that people don ,as a familiar example :object oriented programming relative to the process oriented programming is a great idea change ,and this change to the software industry to bring the impact it is quite big .
When you are in the right direction or is the right idea and thought, you can efficiently to complete the corresponding .If you are the guiding ideology and basic concepts is a problem, no matter how much effort it takes, are likely to cast to waste .
n said that for a long time ,with the fall in love have what relation ?Very large !In fall in love ,a large part of male presence in the error on the idea .When we see a favorite woman, often comes to mind first thought was : I want to chase her .
It wrong, normal ah ?Do programmers know ,when we are faced with a problem, first appeared in the brain solution often is the most direct ,but also the lowest efficiency .Ordinary programmers use the minimum efficiency way to write the complicated code ,had a tremendous effort to solve the problem ,and for those who are good at thinking analysis of bovine forced programmers, with a very short code can be very efficient .
When you see a beautiful woman , I will follow her the idea is obviously the most direct ,unfortunately ,the fact that this is also the lowest efficiency .And those who love master often in two words or three can my love for you .
Waiting for love of you and those games FLOWERS LOVER any different ?Between you and the biggest difference is :when my lover see beauty ,appeared in his mind . I will not follow her ,but I trying to attract her .
n pursuit and attract this is a different idea, it started on train of thought of different leads to your behavior is different, of course, is also to a great extent leads to different results .
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Although this is only a story in the novel ,but these things happen in our real life when it has happened .n most men have been in pursuit of a woman ,each like a tours Tanzania so in front of the woman lay low ,make every attempt to please her ,if she was not happy ,we seem to face the end of the world, leave no stone unturned to make her happy .
In this regard ,tours Tanzania is reach the peak of perfection ,to give up their personality and dignity ,allowing A Zi to ravage the mercy ,his eyes out to A Zi .Tours Tanzania doing what is he in the end ,A Zi where no mercy have not had ,do not love ,even the last of a good card are not gain ,it is a very .
n have a look flash do ,never try to please A Zi ,A Zi to make trouble out of nothing and never compromise ,A Zi made the mistake quickly points out ,strict discipline .But when A Zi was injured ,I can drop everything ,took A Zi to Greater Khingan Range for her very cold dig ginseng .
Of course ,I told A Zi it was no interest ,but we assume that if I interest for A Zi ,that A Zi is not capture an enemy easily .Finally, in the novel ending miserable being ,she love ,for I go .
n in fact ,I the perfect man in reality is not much, but like tours Tanzania such infatuation male is not in the minority .In the face of woman, are you willing to do I do ,or be willing to do tours Tanzania ?I believe ,most men would say : I want to do I ,but I also believe ,many men are in fact doing tours tanzania .
In fact ,I and tours Tanzania difference is :I was attracted to violet ,and tours Tanzania in pursuit .n the same story happened in Wang Yuyan, Duan Yu to curry favour with sb. For her crazy ,a mouth ,a fairy sister ,but Wang Yuyan did not Duan yu .
Anti see Fuk ,this man all day thinking of revival ,threw himself into the work, fully reflects a man treats the cause that rigid ,so it attracted deeply about .n although the novel is fictional, but we can also see that the attractive and the pursuit of is a world of difference .
Slightly analyse pursuit and attract the meaning of the two words ,you can easily draw :pursuit is to put yourself in a passive position ,you need to pay close attention to each other ,and adjust their own state .
The attraction is to put yourself in the active position ,you can take the initiative to change their state ,let the other party to meet you .In Quest mode ,you are floating in the boat in the sea ,you should always pay attention to the direction of the lighthouse .
In the attract mode ,you are standing on the shore lighthouse guides ships at sea ,towards the direction of you coming .Pursuit and attraction ,which wasted effort, which twice the result with half the effort ,I believe that all the people stick out a mile .
n in love ,attract far better than to seek effective ,please be sure to remember this sentence .n there may be a lot of people will say ,many people are or ,for girls up to ,the final chase girls ah ?And sure enough ,there are a lot of people is to chase girls ,not attracted to girls .
However ,I want to say is that ,they can be successful ,because they did not meet the strong opponent .Hypothesis ,she didn peak ,then tours Tanzania may impress violet ,they can live together ,but ,one day later peak appeared, who can guarantee that she will not be tempted ?Suppose ,if I and A Zi are really together ,and who can let A Zi change ?Clearly ,the same result ,but the safety coefficient is completely different, tours Tanzania can only pray to God don Qiao Feng appears ,and Qiao Feng do not have to worry about her problems .
n here, I want to tell you two a true story .n a friend of university dorm roommate ,family is very rich, who is quite good, studying in a university is also good .But this guy is a fucking loser ,is not good for nothing, is nothing in front of the woman ,a little tours Tanzania .
During the university be lost to all sense of shame chasing a girl ,up to ,make money ,all the requirements are promised a girl .After graduating from University, get married ,get married after less than two years ,she had run away with another man .
Later I heard from others ,the woman that this guy is home to rich ,she is also very good ,but he no meaning, lack of manliness .n say a woman ,with her boyfriend from high school began to fall in love ,have been talking for nearly ten years .
The man told her and care in every possible way ,tell ,in outsiders two people live in harmony, extremely affectionate .Later, the girl graduate ,work in less than a year to meet a man ,to love my boyfriend of ten years broke up .
The same dormitory sisters said of her: you ah ,two people for so many years ,has been very good, must prepare to get married, how with others run ? .The girl said : he was very good to me ,his family was very good to me ,but he is very boring to talk with him is no fun .
n similar to the example ,in the US there are many ,may everyone can say one or two to .So ,for those who have pursued the woman men ,I tell you ,don let down ,unless you want to approach on woman attraction ,or your relationship is not strong .
n said so much ,I want to tell you is ,don want to try to seek a woman, the woman is not to pursue ,quickly think of a way to enhance their charm ,attracting women is king .n finally, I want to add one point :the excessive pursuit of the woman is very immoral behavior ,by showing the charm of its own to attract a woman is the gentleman to .
Regardless of wheat and chaff ,unreasonable woman take care of ,send gifts ,will only give a woman to increase pressure ,let her feel : really want to do ,it is trying to buy me off ? .
Most probably it did not actually happen only according to their own ways to do ,regardless of the feelings of a woman in love and ,banner, for women were crazy harassment ,this is actually a very selfish behavior .
A woman needs a relaxed environment ,you may show their charm ,himself as a scenery let a woman to enjoy ,canada goose sale,in women when they need care and love to her ,never give a woman applying pressure ,allowing both sides felt at ease ,it is benefit .
n today is first mentioned here ,please be sure to remember :attract far better than to seek effective !n underline :since attract far better than to seek effective ,then we should be what kind of man can be attracted to the woman ?n ;n ;n ;n ;n ;n ;n ;n programmer fall in love two what a man attractive n first from the individual value is mentioned ,the individual thinks: the value of a person can be divided into extrinsic value and intrinsic value .
n extrinsic value ,I give the definition is :you and I together with the presence of value ,easily affected by external environment value .For example, wealth ,status and so on are extrinsic value ,those are things you not to bring health, died away ,you may be because of the external effects of overnight, or it may be in the natural calamities and man-made misfortunes of dissipate one .
As the saying goes money comes and goes , high official positions and riches as clouds and so on also is this meaning .n generally ,everyone is easy to judge whether a person has higher extrinsic value .
Driving cars ,live in the villa ,there are always pretty ,basically such people have higher extrinsic value ;in turn ,take the bus to work ,live close rent a house ,an old single ,this helps buddy no extrinsic value .
n intrinsic value and external value ,different ,this is really belong to you the human value .Your personality ,intelligence ,interest ,attitude of doing things ,you belong to the intrinsic value .
Intrinsic value can accompany your life ,whether you are the Regal isolationist or family reunion ,whether you fall on evil days or rich ,you will never abandon the intrinsic value .n smart ,confident ,humorous and so on ,with these features, we think he has a higher intrinsic value .
Stupid ,obscene ,Ma Yun gave the struggling people classic statemen,boring and so on ,such people intrinsic value basically is negative .The n now ,we will look at how the man can be attracted to the woman ,the extrinsic value and intrinsic value from two aspects .
n said the first extrinsic value .If two men have the same intrinsic value ,then the female will tend to choose high extrinsic value of male .Why ,I will not say ,my thought could understand .
n efforts to improve their extrinsic value is necessary ,especially in match ,if you are in Beijing or Shanghai have a house and the other without what ,then your odds of considerable .
But want to improve their extrinsic value is not so easy ,if you can ,then in the foreseeable three years you can afford to buy a house is not likely .Therefore ,aimed at the external value of this question ,we the best way is to accept this reality ,but can never give up efforts ,might one day every dog has his day .
n from intrinsic value in this regard .If two men have the same external value ,then females tend to choose to have a high intrinsic value of male .However ,in many cases ,as long as your intrinsic value is high enough ,even your external value is relatively low ,you can still attract a lot of women .
n the great talent of Liu Yong, this man is not even the emperor girl dare blister ,compared with the Song Emperor ,Yagi Naga extrinsic value is simply not worth mentioning, but others play the ability, is the intrinsic value .
n front section attract far better than to seek effective which mentioned that two real examples ,in the two example ,abandoned men are extrinsic value is relatively high, but the intrinsic value of people who .
n with the development of society ,the continuous development of civilization ,women more financially independent ,many women in the extrinsic value in no way inferior to men .Therefore ,women more than men external value ,they and man in the process of communication ,pay more attention to their feelings ,Canada Goose Youth Parka,they on the male put forward higher requirements .
n this to us these extrinsic value is not prominent male is definitely good news .Because ,to upgrade their intrinsic value in the extrinsic value is much easier .As long as you try to improve ,you will enhance the intrinsic value ;but when it comes to making money is not the same ,your hard work often will not bring you much economy to change, especially in the current Chinese society .
n in order to ensure the safety, we do not discuss the current situation .Hark back to the subject ,to discuss how to improve our intrinsic value .When it comes to intrinsic value ,scope is quite wide, how we can improve ?Change your personality ?Many cultivate some hobbies ?Exercise a strong physique ?n archaism cloud : they follow the leader ,a man to shoot horses .
Therefore ,we need to know the specific that an enhancement to the attractive girl has the best effect ,after the fact we put time and energy are limited to use in the most effective projects, like this can receive the twice the result with half the effort .
n in my continuous learning ,thinking and practice ,summed up the points for women the most lethal ,is also the largest area of the inner quality of destruction :self-confidence and sense of humor, but confidence also very important .
n is confident that n first said confidence ,but the importance of confidence is impossible to overstate .Strong confidence can not only let you in love be benefited in every way ,is you work in all aspects of life a good helper ,is home to travel ,murder and burn of essential medicine .
n many people will feel your lack of confidence ,but there is still no girl .It is because you are in front of the woman is not confident, for she has left an indelible impression and male .
Specifically ,this person will often make the following actions :in front of the woman giving up principles ,woman all agreed ,including a variety of make trouble out of nothing ;woman is a bit angry ,then you are scared to scare the shit out of sb.
,ask three seven twenty-one began to blame ;do like to call a woman ,texting ,hate not real-time monitoring ;a the opportunity to give a woman flowers ,gifts ,even the Qingming Festival to send .
.. ... n all the doings in woman in mind ,will leave you are not confident enough impression .Investigate its reason, because you are eager to get her ,you are afraid of losing her, anxious and afraid of of course will be left unsure impression .
Confidence man will not do so ,because he knows he can choose many women, he need not deliberate to please any woman .Say a little hard if I remained a bachelor all his life ,Canada Goose Gloves,also does not matter ,there was a poem : I ,stay somewhere .
Everywhere do not leave father ,grandfather stem soho . n n conquer a man of humor is the best way to make him laugh ,if you can make a person always laughed ,then he is in front of you will become less defensive ,canada goose store,he with you together will be more and more comfortable .
n for women, one can make her happy is a man than a tall and handsome man more attractive .Typically, we feel a sense of humor is more accessible ,humor is more interesting, and all of this will be for you to approach women create great convenience .
n needs to pay attention, with women in the process of what you demonstrate the humor should be with other occasions humor vary .Some Comedians in order to make the audience laugh ,will take some sacrifice self image practice .
But unlike women ,we can learn from Comrade Wei Fan ,quite a big head ,a face at a lovely girl : ... ... Rob ... ... A color .If you meet a gentle and kind-hearted girl ,can hurl to say a word to you : roll ! If you encounter ;bad-tempered girl ,what is not said, direct kick on in your little brother to kick over .
In addition ,you can stupid Baji from online to see the joke ,Moncler Kids Clearance,it is hard to give the girl back out ,it will only make the girl feel poor .n and female contacts in the process of humor is must establish in confident basis, otherwise your humor would have only been them as tasteless jokes .
Your humor embodied should be: arrogant funny teasing pressure combination .n here to give you an example ,I and a beauty of a dialogue : you give n your appearance strike much mark? , I ask .
n 6 points , beauty is first proudly smiled, then pretend modesty .n and I look seriously said: you are too modest ,I think what had 6.1 points . n girls laughing ,then convinced and said : ,give me 10 more people .
n then I looked puzzled and asked : people say that the full mark is 100 mark ? n girl and laughter ,hit me .n underline :since the self-confident humor man to woman attractive, so how can we do ?n ;n ;n ;n ;n ;n ;n three programmers fall in love - cultivate confidence n to obtain the female figure ,you can not handsome ,canada goose online store,also may not be rich ,UGG Ultra Tall Boots 5245,but you have to believe it .
n self-confidence is a huge topic ,there will be many content to continue this topic, here only on the most basic confidence .n recall previous your with female contact process whether the following behavior :n and women together feels feel constrained and uneasy ,Just great,and beauty together is more nervous, afraid of making mistakes ;n and women speech, voice ,tone firm enough ;n and woman four eyes ,canada goose store,you will a wandering eye ,as soon as possible and to look away ;n and women together, dare not make fun of ;n .
.. ... n of these acts are not self-confidence, when the woman saw you have more performance without thinking ,they will call you not confident tag ,then you in her there for all eternity .
You are very hate their behavior ,you always tell yourself to be assertive ,but time and again as in the past ,your performance is stable ,in the eyes of a woman you are a confident man .
n psychology there is a saying ,called : halo effect ,presumably meaning that is to say :if you are a bad-ass ,then people will think you are in other areas have a bad-ass ,is the so-called good 100 good .
Here, I want to come out of a new term : negative halo effect ,I wish the antique store opened,meaning that: if you are in a rather poor, so people will think you are in other aspects of the same .Specific examples ,we recall on primary school when the situation will know :learning good students are teachers think of everything good, learn bad student in the teacher are often nothing is right .
n if you a woman before the show is not confident enough, then in her eyes ,you often also is a timid and overcautious ,lack of originality ,impotence and premature ejaculation .If you give her self-confident ,although she does not immediately attracted to you ,but looks like in her ,you are at least one has the sense of responsibility ,able men .
n fact is so cruel :you are a responsible man ,your work is also good ,you are healthy rod ,but just because you not confident in the girl before some of the performance ,but you lost the chance ;I simply hold the play of mind ,I have no what work steadily, I was long and thin black, but I am in front of the girl is very confident ,the opportunity to belong to me .
n please do not complain about a woman didn mind ,because they do not mind ,exactly said that is no rational mind .Women are emotional animal ,they depend on the intuition .So ,you don the woman would like you to think rationally ,not to pass you preach to persuade them .
You have to accept the facts :women are emotional animal .n is due to the fact that cannot be changed ,us nice guys have to endure loneliness ?Our excellent genes inherited down ?n stop blame everyone and everything but not oneself ,play to our rational mind ,then apply what you learn ,analyze problems ,to solve the problem .
Dialectics it everyone from the primary school to the big ,estimates a would have been tired of ,but the fact proved again and again that dialectics is very powerful .Dialectics that there are always two sides to everything ,since the woman we got very upset ,so why don research how to make good use of a woman ?n in fact ,those love cheat could use a woman ,giving them false images ,so as to achieve the purpose of piancaipianse .
Of course ,those who violate the law and discipline of the things we do ,we are still good man .However, we can use a woman change us in their image ,this too ?n specifically how to do ?Have a look those master of love in front of the woman ,learning from them ,imitating their every word and action .
Although now you not a confident man ,but please you ,from now on ,behave like a confident man :n ;n from now on ,when you walk ,please keep your chin ;n ;n from now on ,when you speak, please loud ;n ;n from now on ,when you face a woman, please look natural ;n ;n from now on ,when you talk to women in four eyes ,please keep the firm eyes ;n ;n from now on ,A dark night pork service pack of wolves competed in the world cup _ network game Sina game _ sina.c,when you find a woman makes a mistake ,just slightly ridiculing her ;n ;n from now on ,when you talk to women in the together time ,please take the initiative to open the door for her ,to move the chair ;n .
.. ... n in general ,the confidence man can unconsciously easily do the above, so when you do this ,the female will without thinking will be your confidence man into the ranks of .Although you still have to consciously force myself to do so ,that is to say you in essence is not the confidence man ,however, a woman will often give you confidence label .
n once a woman will you into a confident man in the ranks, soon you they look at you with change .When you feel you in the female heart image gets a promotion ,your self-confidence will really be enhanced ,then your self-confidence and in turn will show that you really confident .
One day, you you have become confident imperceptibly attractive man .n if you start, also do not easily to talk to women ,you still dare not tell women have eye contact ,then please do hold your head up high ,loud ,if you even this can not be done, I suggest you go to see the psychological doctor .
In short ,you should be gradual, persevere ,actually is or how long, up to a month ,you will change a lot .n actually ,this is a psychological suggestion ,also called self hypnosis .You keep it to yourself and positive psychological suggestion to improve confidence ,when you seem more confident, others will give you some positive feedback ,which will strengthen your psychological suggestion ,so that you become more confident .
n ;n prevailing abroad to encourage education is actually the truth ,when children make a little bit of success ,both teachers and parents will give more encouragement ,this will stimulate a child more confidence and interest ,and make greater achievements .
And our Chinese education more popular pressure ,when you finally make some achievement, teachers and parents often tell you do not be proud ,you this is nothing ,you still have a long way to go .
This has to a certain extent, can explain why the Chinese are generally not foreigners so confident .n ;n ;n programmer fall in love four (1 ) mentality and personality n ;n n playing in love, too many people lose in the mind .
n when you were a young teenager, inadvertently by a girl to attract, and that she is the world beautiful woman ,with her is the greatest happiness .You see her as the purest and most beautiful angel ,dare not see her eyes, just silently in the heart of miss .
When you put a woman too seriously .n when you youth not in ,but still alone ,female colleagues an unintentional smile and greeting ,may be understood as signals of love .So you get young shy lessons ,rapid offensive, finally female colleagues have to say very innocently : feel shy ,you misunderstood .
When you .n when you put the woman at the very high, you always think not in front of her mistakes ,you have to show her your best .On the psychological effect, every time you say a word to be repeatedly consideration ,you each do one thing to have .
So you gave women left womanishly fussy ,do things sloppily impression .n when you are too hungry ,you always think of as soon as possible to her ,you are always afraid of another man was chasing her .
You try to please her ,you show her love ;at the same time ,you also have interest in her private life ,she hates not real-time monitoring ;she was with another man to laugh ,you are jealous .
So you let her feel you do not respect her ,you just want to buy her ,hold her .n actually ,love just so so ,not mysterious, nor divine .n in fact, women are just so so, not simply ,also not good .
n ;n on love ,for a woman, you have to hold a play .n alleged is just a game :the game without a win, we enjoy the game process .n ;n ;n you get along with the woman not to sleep with her ,and she is also not to fall in love ,but not to marry her .
Two person is purely to get along, if you have a feeling can go to ,if have feelings you can love ,if you think the right can be married, all of which should be natural, not deliberately forced .
n uses a Wuyuwuqiu attitude to get along with the woman ,since no goals ,no success .You are after is the live process ,in this process ,you trying to make a game fun .n alleged is to : I am happy ,you happy .
n you with a woman ,in the final analysis is to cool themselves ,whether physical or psychological ,so that their most important happy .Don fuck up like all suffering ,always face the patriotic expression ,always want to make her happy .
In this world, no one can make a man happy, happiness is yourself .The gentleman to cool it .You cannot in order to cool themselves regardless of the woman feelings ,everyone is really good .
Woman and you together but also to cool ,UGG Tall Stripe Cable Knit,whether physical or psychological ,so as a responsible man ,you have to make a woman happy ,so that they would like to accompany you to play .n bluntly, is to play game :we like to have fun together ,then play ;is not fun to play ,I don play, looking for other people .
n programmer ;fall in love four (2 ) n n mentality and personality ;no woman is worthy of you n this sentence does not really have no woman can measure up to you, but you should have such a tough attitude .
n this mindset more extreme ,if a person really has such idea ,he estimated the woman is not of much interest .In fact ,I don a man could really have so hard mentality .n which why mention it? This is because some people poisoned too deep ,ill ,must want to illness .
n many men see the beauty, often think of is :her request is very high ,I can meet her request ?She has lots of men after her ,my other than the pursuit of more excellent ?A lot of men suddenly being the two questions to intimidated by ,then stopped, stared at the opportunity to slip away from us .
n many men began with a woman ,yet ,to come up with a lot of restrictions and fetters to restrain myself: I want to put one good to her ,the only way to get her ;I had to let her, because the man is supposed to give a woman ;I am responsible man ,I can chop and change .
These men from the last woman has received the answer is likely to be : you are a good man ,but we do not fit, or make a friend ,a 24K gold limited edition good card .n from now on ,throw away these new ideas ,please remember :you are a man ,and no woman is worthy of you !n any woman ,whether she is an angel or a devil, in your heart, she can only be NO.
2 ,you will always be NO.1 .You psychologically occupy the dominant position, only in this way can you in front of her show really confident .You want to position himself as a choice ,not selected .
You should have their own standards and requirements ,and not blindly follow others requirements .n when you see beauty ,you thought should be :this girl is good ,basically reach our requirement .
There must be many insignificant man day pestering her with those guys ,I never .Face the same thing ,you put yourself in a different position ,your ideas about the problem and understanding will be different .
In fact ,she was already tired of those obscene male stalker ,she loves is you this great man ,she will think of ways to lure you .n when you start with a woman ,you should take a bunch of restrictions and fetters to assess her :she is it right? Is worth me to her ?If she were with me make trouble out of nothing ,right down to her black list .
I haven whether to stay with her ,I will continue to visit her ,but I have other exploration target .When you start to examine her, they caused her a sense of competition ,let her know you have high standards ,high demand of man ,not all women are eligible to stay with you .
n when another woman asks why you don ,Moncler Womens Jackets,you use the relaxed tone told her : because there was no woman can really touch me .n used the medicine ,in order to avoid overcorrect ,this objectively to say :you can attract any woman .
n so ,when you being rejected by a woman ,please do not become dejected and despondent ,as if the world was coming to an end .Rejection is very normal ,because in this world without which man can attract all woman ,no matter how hard man ,all be rejected by the woman .
n be rejected by the woman ,is just a friend is not willing to play with you the game, you are the best practice is to find other children to play ,or simply to do other things ,such as in a good mood to come out to play .
In other words ,the woman would not play with you ,so you do not have any loss .n finally hope that we keep in mind: first, no woman is worthy of you .Second you can not attract any woman .
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