Srila Prabhupada’s kind and affectionate dealings.
Yashomatinandana das: Sometimes Prabhupada was very tolerant of his devotees.
After he read some letters from New York about Bali Mardan and his wife, Prabhupada said,
“The whole problem is sex life. Yan maithunadi-grhamedhi-sukham hi tuccham. Tuccham means insignificant. One may think that sex is the greatest platform of happiness, but actually that happiness is insignificant. In fact, sex life is a source of distress. We have so many problems because of sex life.”
Although the situation in the New York temple was a big problem, Prabhupada spoke in this way for five minutes and then dropped it.
He reduced every problem to a philosophical understanding because he saw everything from a philosophical viewpoint.
I saw that in his every action Prabhupada never thought of himself as the doer but fully dependent on Krishna.
He would pursue a certain line and leave success or failure up to Krishna.
Some devotees wanted to go from Juhu to Bombay by taxi, and being a miserly man, I agitated them by saying, “Why should you go by taxi?”
I told Prabhupada, “When I tell the devotees that it’s too expensive to go to Bombay by taxi, they get agitated.”
Prabhupada said, “Just consider that before becoming devotees they were eating flesh and blood like tigers. Now they are chanting Hare Krishna, they are dancing and they are enjoying spiritually. Haven’t they accomplished something great? So if they want some extra money, give it to them. Don’t worry about their faults.”
Then in a lecture the next day he said, “Money is very hard to earn. Money is like Krishna’s blood and we should not waste it. Every rupee should be considered as a brick in the temple.”
So to me he said, “You tolerate,” while to them he said “Don’t waste money.”
In other words, he helped me increase my tolerance in the service of Krishna, and he helped them increase their frugality in the service of the Lord.
He approached the difficulty from different angles and instead of feeling discouraged, everyone saw a way to increase the quality of their service.
This was a key principle in Prabhupada’s dealings with every devotee, and that’s why he was able to produce so many managers.
In spite of our many mistakes, the movement grew because of Prabhupada’s kind and affectionate dealings.
The last verses of the Nectar of Instruction say, vaikunthaj janito vara madhu-puri tatrapi rasotsavad,
“Greater than Vaikuntha is Mathura mandala, and greater than that is Vrindavan where the rasa dance takes place. And greater than Vrindavan is Govardhan. And in Govardhan, Radha-kunda is the best place. Where is a knowledgeable person who will not serve the holy place called Radha-kunda?”
When that book came out, Prabhupada’s secretaries complained that devotees wanted to give up distributing books to stay in Radha-kunda.
Prabhupada said, “Just see the rascals. They have not followed the first verse of Upadesamrta and they are jumping to the eleventh verse.”
The first verse is vaco vegam manasah krodha-vegam jihva-vegam udaropastha-vegam,
“One who controls the pushes of the senses is fit to be guru and make disciples everywhere.”
Sarvam apimam prthivim sa sisyat. Prabhupada said,
“Let them control their senses first, then they can think of Radha-kunda. Their mentality is called markata-vairagya, the renunciation of the monkeys. Monkeys also live in the forests, eating only fruits and leaves, but they are thinking, ‘Where is the she-monkey?’ The desire to give up one’s service and go to Radha-kunda is simply monkey business.”
—Jashomatinandana
.Excerpt from “Memories-Anecdotes of a Modern-Day Saint”
by Siddhanta das