Do you think that it is ok to spank your child or children in pbulic areas. waht is your view on this issue?
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spanking your child in public
Feb 24, 2013
Not right
by: Shirley
I don’t think its right to spank them in public. Last week I saw a woman spank her son (about 8) at the park. He threw sand at another kid. She took his shorts, shirt and underwear off and whipped his butt with a strap.
He was screaming that people could see his bare penis. She then whipped his penis a couple of times with the strap and told him he was going to get more when they got home. That was awful to watch!.
Feb 22, 2013
Just embarass
by: Anonymous
I have 1 child (9 year old) who acts up all the time and I always tell them to come to me and I take their pants all the way off and underwear too and after I spank them really hard I make them stand up and say “I was being bad so that is why I got spanked”.
And if they don’t I take them into the bathroom and spank them until they promise to say it and once my 9 year old would just not listen so I went over to her friends house and asked my daughter friend to come outside And once she was out there I spanked my daughter like 50 times and her friend just stood there but after that my daughter would always do what I told her to do.
Feb 19, 2013
SPANK THEM!
by: Anonymous
I have 2 sons and a daughter. boys are age 11 and 13. girl is 9…
If they act up in public I give them 1 warning to stop before I make them come over by me, get on my knee, and putt their pants down enough to expose their butt and then I give them 10 spanking at least.
I do this to them all. once at the mall my 13 year old was acting up and I spanked him in the open mall. my girl was spanked in an elevator before for pressing all the buttons. never get them completely naked though the 1st time. I don’t use my hand either, I always have a hair brush I use.
If they still don’t behave I spank them 20 more times this time and take their pants off completely. once in the car at Target I spanked my 11 year old. If they talk back or swear the get soap in the mouth applied like brushing teeth on a toothbrush.
If they continue to misbehave I bring them to the bathroom to a stall, strip them, and spank them hard until they cry really hard. If they try and cover their butts I smack their hands, then take off their pants throw them in the toilet, and carry them with only underwear on like a baby until i get what i need and then to the car.
Feb 04, 2013
naughty kids have to get spankings
by: Anonymous
if my kids are bad i tell them get your butts over here i strip them and spank them bare butt. then they have to follow one of us naked and if he`s bad then he gets the paddle 100 times that makes him less naughty.
Jan 26, 2013
no bare bottom spanking teenagers
by: Anonymous
I wanted to say, stripping children going through puberty and including teens, especially if teens are boys, stripped by mom, or teen girls stripped by dad for bare bottom spankings is against the law, especially in the state that I am from.
It is sexual abuse. I asked a friend of mine who is a chief of police in neighboring town here in Oregon and also my niece who is a state trooper. They said spanking is legal, but you can only use the back side of your hands, not the palm of your hands or other instruments to spank. If children go to school and tell school officials. The parents will be arrested and children removed from parents.
I am a believer in spankings, I was spanked as a child, but not during my teen years. I didn’t get into trouble. I was too busy working and going to school to get into trouble. When my dad spanked he spanked with clothing on not off and it did hurt believe me.
I am a christian, I believe in spare the rod spoil the child. But, I do not believe in stripping them of their dignity to do it. I think parents are absolutely sick to do so. No where in scripture does it say take their clothing off to spank them.
Moms should not be seeing their teenage boys naked, and dads should not see their teenage girls naked unless children are sick or have physical health problems. These teens are adults in their genital areas, and are not for moms and dads prying eyes to see.
I feel so bad inside for these kids. I was a single dad who raised a daughter and I would never violate her dignity by doing this. I love my daughter very, very much. She is a grown woman now, we are still very close. Moms and dads, don’t do this to your children you could destroy a lasting relationship with your children as adults.
From my own personal experience with my own mother, it can and does happen. My mother never knew her granddaughter, as I did not permit her to see her.
Jan 24, 2013
Unbelievable!
by: Bing
Jill wrote August 23 that she received spankings at home in the bare on her bum and private areas. Yet she considered that normal.
Jill this is abuse!
Jan 23, 2013
It is very sad
by: Johno
In response to Jean’s entry:
There is something sad in this reporting of this spanking mother. She does not care about the children and their shame and hurt when spanked in public; she only considers the impropriety of the situation.
It also appears as if this mother looks forward to stripping her children bare and spanking them harshly-with a belt no less. One can almost discern the pursed lips of this woman when she orders the little wretches to undress completely, before she rains spanks on their immature cringing bodies.
In it all, this woman forgets that this forum is not meant to be about a person inflicting pain on children; but rather what is the best outcome of chastisement now & in the future, for our off spring’s well being!.
Jan 18, 2013
I pay my respects
by: Bing
To Anonymous who commented “Spanked – yes; Warranted – NO.”
My fullest admiration for this young man, who can objectively and without a twisted personality look back on his spanking days.
It is sad that even when helpless in hospital parents gleefully announce a spanking, not even considering the son’s privacy in a shared ward.
But by rising above these unwarranted invasions of privacy and inflicted pain by parents, hopefully this young hero will never inflict injury and misery on his own off spring.
My best wishes to a fine young man, who is an example to many!.
Jan 17, 2013
No
by: Jean
I don’t spank my kids in public because I spank them naked. Even though my kids are little I don’t want anyone seeing their bare private parts. We wait till we get home and I tell them to go get undressed and bring me the belt.
Jan 09, 2013
Spanked – yes; Warranted – NO
by: Anonymous
When I was eleven, I was injured in a bike accident and was hospitalized for ten days. I was in less than a good mood and one evening I said something – can’t recall what it was – and
my father threatened to spank me.
I wrinkled my nose, and my mother joined in with,”and it’ll feel good, too. You haven’t had a spanking in two weeks.”
All this in front of the lady who was sharing my room with me. My mother was also fond of retelling the times she spanked me or one of my siblings for something like the time I peed in my pants and she took them down and punished me on the spot – on the front porch in broad daylight. I was about 18 months old at the time!.
Dec 31, 2012
2012 spanking teenagers bare bottoms.
by: Anonymous
I am a Christian. I am a single man who has raised a daughter by myself with the help of paternal grandparents. Bare bottom spanking is a sin and is immoral. Especially a teenager going through puberty.
I do believe in spanking and am firm believer in spare the rod spoil the child. But, spanking only with clothing on. If a teenager misbehaves they need a spanking. If they act like little children they need to be treated like little children.
The last time I had to spank my daughter she was 12yrs old. All, I had to do is say I would spank her if she acted like a 2yr old, and most of the time that worked. I would use other means such as grounding and taking away privileges. That worked for her. All in all she was a good kid. She and I are still very, very close. She is now 24yrs old. She is married and her and her husband are both registered nurses. I have 2 beautiful grand children by her and her husband. They are twins boy and girl. I love my children and grandchildren.
Like I said at first, I am a christian. I was saved at age of 14yrs old. I am an active member of our local southern baptist church. I believe, that we teach our children morality, and I do not think it proper for a true christian father to spank his teenage daughter going through puberty bare bottomed. It is not right for him to see her naked. She is a young woman physically in her private areas. I also don’t believe it proper for a mother to see her naked teenage son and even spank him bare bottomed.
We teach our kids not to be sexually active and seeing opposite gender naked is to be seen by their future spouses and spouses only. My daughter when she needed help with personal things. My grandmother would help her. Now, that being said. I was very open with my daughter on the subject of sex and boys. We always had open dialog about issues and puberty and body changes.
I never held back any questions or answers. Fathers and mothers and human even as Christians we are sinners. The last time I seen my daughter naked she was 10yrs old. She became modest and I respected her modesty and dignity. I do hope moms and dads can understand this?.
I know in today’s world a lot of things kids are exposed to on tv, and computers. In this town where I live they are training 16yr old boys and girls to be Certified Nursing Assistants right in high school. These girls are training in assisted living centers that elderly and even teenager who are in rehab situations from accidents. These 16yr old girls are bathing, dressing, helping men and boys going to the toilet. Teenage boys are learning how to take care of adult women like this as well.
I personally think this is wrong and they are too young to be seeing adult men and even teens their age like this. I would hope fathers would stop spanking their teenage and even college daughters bare bottomed. Moms stop spanking your teen sons bare bottomed as well. You can still effectivily spank them with clothing on just as effective.
Oct 26, 2012
Eyes are everywhere!!!!
by: Johno
Anonymous has a son who apparently without much reason destroys property. This suggests impulsiveness and lack of due reflection. I gather that the son inherited these traits from his father.
Surely ,what message does his behaviour,spanking a ten year old in this manner and I quote: “I found a quiet bowery at the park where much wasn’t going on and made him strip to his underpants. I than took him over my knee and paddled him until he cried. So, I guess that was out in public, but no one was nearby to observe it.”
Anyone passing by could have (and in fact un-be known)may have observed the near naked lad copping it from his Dad. Surely a thinking and caring father would have done the chastising at home where prying eyes may never have observed this.
That’s what caring for children is all about!.
Oct 19, 2012
Park
by: Anonymous
When my son was ten, he got into some serious trouble. He and another boy destroyed some property. They broke a window and got into a maintenance shed at a park near our house. I don’t know what inspired them, but they than proceeded to dump salt, fertilizer and some other things kept in the shed on the floor and grind it in with their shoes.
I arranged for my son to help clean up the mess he made the next day. I made him sweep and gather up the mess. Than I made him mop the floor. But I wasn’t done with him. When we finished, I told him there was still the matter of a spanking he needed to get.
I found a quiet bowery at the park where much wasn’t going on and made him strip to his underpants. I than took him over my knee and paddled him until he cried. So, I guess that was out in public, but no one was nearby to observe it.
Aug 23, 2012
Spanked
by: Jill
You bet I got spanked, in public or private, wherever I needed it. In public my parents always kept my pants up an only spanked my butt. But at home I had to take all my clothes off and they’d spank my butt and privates hard with the belt. I think it taught me how to behave.
Aug 10, 2012
back
by: Anonymous
Wow.its been almost 8 mths! Spanking works.my dd has been excellent and today was the first time I had to spank in 8 mths! She regressed with a huge tantrum today at the store or she was testing me.to her chagrin,even though 8 mths had elapsed,we immediately took a trip to the ladies room where she received a few swats.once hone she rcvd the the full spanking on her bare fanny with the paddle.early to bed.hope another almost yr goes by.her red tail is proof we will be consistent
Aug 02, 2012
public spanking
by: Anonymous
i spank my son in public and always with his pants down so everyone can see his bottom and privates and then over my knee so he cries and is humiliated at the same time
Jul 18, 2012
Spank in Private
by: Anonymous
While I am not opposed to spanking, I do object to spanking a child in public. Public spankings are needless spectacles that reflect badly on both parent and child.
Spanking should be between parent and child. The best explanation I have ever heard of this came from a woman recalling that her mother ALWAYS closed the door before putting her over the maternal knee even when she and her mother were the only ones in the house. It was the time when she and her mother worked out their differences together and without distractions. Consequently, the woman said, even as a teenager, she had no reason to not be fully cooperative and focus on learning her lesson rather than upping the ante by taking an embarrassing situation and making it worse for both of them.
As a parent, I never found a situation in which was I was doing was so important that I could not take a few minutes to take a misbehaving child to a private place and remedy the difficulty.
Jul 14, 2012
I would pay for a warm-hearted open-palm spanking any day but……….
by: hebrewsgh@yahoo.com
Hello there parents,
i am 30 years old and grew up in a very abusive country-Ghana. parents here don’t spank. they use rattan canes which are readily sold very cheaply everywhere you go. canning is done in schools ( all of them except those for westerner which cost a great deal more), homes and churches as well. put simply, it’s not fun to be a kid in some places, this one included. there hasn’t been much of a debate for it widely believed there is no need for one. kids mess up you cane em. all adults do it on the slightest provocation. police don’t respond to stuff like this cos it is considered culturally compatible. you can inflict all sorts of injuries under the banner of discipline when all you want to do vent some anger out. what better outlet than helpless kids??
having gone through all this myself, i am now an adult and highly against it. i wish parents here would at most resort to open palm spanking on the knee instead. it is more reasonable and the feel of a parents hand-delivered discipline should be far better than foreign implement which leave scars-physical and emotional. the effects are many and the benefits are too few.
corporal punishments teaches that if you have strength, you are right.
it teaches impatience since it is metted out instantly.
it discourges reasoning and place emphasis on might.
it sanitizes intimidation, and makes abuse seem acceptalbe.
the worst and most painful of it is it builds walls between the abuser and the abused. many abusive families never say more than a few words to each other in a day. they go about their business very officially saying only what is neccessary.
In fairness to frustrated parents, i don’t have any kids of my own yet but i have many nephews and nieces and know that kiddie problems should not lead parents to resort to such desperate measures in the wrestle for control. if you believe in corporal punishment, i implore you to use it in moderation, with love and a great deal of communication.
it’s sickening to read of parents using duck tapes to silence their kids while they spank. can’t you at least allow them to plead and make promises while “warm their behinds”? if you listened more, you might find a need to spank less. For heaven sake. spanking them in the mall and at home?? you have a chance to avoid the mistakes many have made.
so much has been said about the link between corp. punishment and fetish sex. the need for humiliation, pain and indignity in a sexual relationship. many decent-looking people have shocking discrete sex-lives that reflect their childhood treatment. next time you get your child on laps for correction, please bear in mind he/she is a husband/wife in the making and you are mostly responsible for how they turn up.
Jul 06, 2012
spanking
by: Anonymous
when you are going to spank in public make sure that it is for a very good reason.
if it is for a good reason i am all for it
Jun 22, 2012
spanking
by: colle
I think the worse spankings I got was the ones with the paddle on my bare butt. First it was with a bare hand to warm my butt and then it ended with the paddle. And the paddle had a say one it the board of education on the seat of understanding. Beleave me you understood after the hand and the paddle hit your bare butt a few times. the most spanks I got was 20 to 28
Jun 02, 2012
a good hiding
by: tony
This is a true account of my past
May 03, 2012
When I was 10
by: Anonymous
When I was 10, this was in 1970, I was at an open market with my mother. I foolishly stole an apple. I got caught and my mother was quite rightly very angry. She immediately took down my shorts and pants, held my hands with one hand and gave me a very sound spanking with her other hand. Yes there was a crowd round us and they all thoroughly approved. Times were different then and kids got spanked in public without any fear of intervention by the police etc. I remember howling with pain and embarrassment. When mother has finished she said to the onlookers, that I would be getting another spanking when she got me home. And yes as soon as we got home my bottom was bared and I got spanked again. Did I steal again. Absolutely not. Both my wife and I were raised with strict discipline. Our kids are grown up not and at university, but we did did spank them when they needed it. Never in public though, but they knew when they got home that if they had been naughty when we were out that they would get a spanking. Its up to individual families to decide how they discipline their kids. Spanking is not abuse.
Apr 18, 2012
no spank for me
by: Anonymous
Spanking is not my thing. Im 13 and one Day I got 12% on my important test and I was rude to my teacheers. So my mom told me to bare my bottom and to get the belt as soon as we get inside our house. At first I was going to fight her but I said “okay.” Immediatly as we got inside I ran to my moms room and grabbed the phone. I then went to the bathroom and proceeded to call the police. My mom kept calling for me and then she heard the siren. She then paniced. Anyway, I don’t like spankins and will continue to call the cops if I spect any spanking coming for me.
Mar 28, 2012
Not Unlawful, but not a Good Idea
by: Anonymous
I support spanking because I think some children are out of control and it can be an effective way to discipline. However, spanking a child in public is a terrible idea. You are bound to attract the attention of someone who opposes spanking simply because so many people do these days. It can lead to a messy and unpleasant scene as well as unfounded accusations of child abuse.
There maybe a situation where you are out in a park or such where no one else is around. In that situation, I might consider taking a misbehaving child to a far corner of the park and paddling them there. However, I’d be very careful if I did that.
A better idea is simply to wait until you get home. In appropriate circumstances, I was not against spanking a child in the presence of their siblings. Particularly, when a child did something dangerous or threatening and I wanted all my kids to understand it wouldn’t be tolerated. One advantage to this method is if you feel the need to pull down their pants to spank them in their underwear or such, you won’t feel the reluctance you would out in public.
Mar 21, 2012
No
by: Anonymous
I can promise you, a good 90% of the time, spanking is not done out of abuse. I have been told by my mother since I could remember, that if I was in her house, I would follow her rules. No matter how old I was. She always said she could lay me over the bed if i go to big for her knees. And guess what, I learned, and I respect and love my mom. When I was 16, I decided to test her. I went out with some friends, was told to be home by 11:30, and was reminded about parties and drinking. I had 1 beer that night and came home at 2. She was up waiting for me and sure enough whipped my butt with a belt. I had a hard time sitting for a couple of days after, but I learned my mom was serious. I’m 19, still living at home, and I can promise you, when my mom tells to do somthing, I do it.
Feb 28, 2012
camping
by: Anonymous
I am a mother of a 6 yr old and 5 year old boys, on a camping trip to the beach,the boys ran to the near edge of a drop off of at least 20 ft. i ran after them and stoped them, after i caught my breath i took them too a low wooden railing sat down and put the oldest over my knee pulled his pants and underpants down to his ankles and hand spanked him good and red! the little one had his turn over my knees with his underpants down also.
Feb 18, 2012
Excuses
by: Anonymous
I do not believe in spanking children …if this is the way to go in order to teach, then also certain adults should be spanked too from their superiors (employers, professors, even the police and court) in order to be taught a lesson and certain people need it much more than kids ( children are only doing trivial things, its just the parents inability to cope with that) since they commit far more serious crimes.
But since the society has progressed how is it that certain parents believe in this inappropriate methods that actually risk the children’s mental and psychological health?
Poor excuses if you ask them, they can not cope with their children frustration and they spank the children. Then in order to justify the unjustified, they invent excuses which are pathetic to parents that are able to teach and discipline through positive methods their children.
As parents you should be ashamed to spank a child that can not defend itself. I hope that one day someone with the same ideas, applies your principals on you; spank you in public to teach you not to embarrass yourselves in public because you are embarrassing modern society with your ways.
Spanking can result to psychological problems, and emotional instability; and this concerns the society and all of us, since we are all living in the world and you are responsible in raising as healthy individuals as possible rather than risking raising sick individuals that can harm my children or other children in the future. You do not live at the trees, detached from the world, but you do not seem to understand that.
And to finish here my post, you have no right to spank a children in public and disturb the public’s peace and quit. Is this the way YOU RESPECT the other people?
As for spanking having effect, if a giant comes and beats you, do you know how effective that shall be? You shall even confess crimes that you never did. So who are you kidding with “its working”? Its working to suit you, not to teach the child. That’s why “beating” is taking place to every power that wants to force itself without persuading anyone of its intentions. You are having the problem, seek help and save yourself, the child and the society from such behaviors and lies.
Feb 13, 2012
spanking on holiday
by: maureen
when were on holiday recently my 10 yr old son had been very bad near pool- after few warnings i took him up to hotel room where his trousers and pants were lowered and he was spanked soundly over my knee up to 10 mins. i let him off my knee once his crying has stopped and he then rubs his sore red bottom.
Feb 11, 2012
HANGARS SUCK
by: Anonymous
MY MOM HIT ME WITH HANGARS ALL THE TIME.
WHENEVER I DO SOMETHING
DONT LISTEN
LIE
DISTURB IN MY SCHOOL(i DONT DO IT I ONLY TALK VERRY SLOWLY)
IF I FORGET SOMETHING
AND I AM ONLY 8 YRS OLD.
PLEEEAASE HELP
Jan 30, 2012
I think spanking is good; not beating or abusive punishment.
by: Anonymous
I do spank children. I draw a line of clear distinction between proper discipline with love. Improper discipline with anger,sexual intentions, … ect.
1: Spanking a child whose cross a line between being good or naughty.
2: A spanking ought reenforce the parent demand: ‘ Do not do this behavior again.’
While I was in the MILTARY in boot camp. The cheif petty oficer said,’You learn with your brain or you learn in pain.’
His meaning the pain is extra psyhical exercise I.E. your pain.
3: A small amount of pain that is a minute or two of your bottom stinging. I think a child remembers.
Whether on the childs clothes or not, I dislike hearing about a child being marked because of the spanking.
Jan 29, 2012
No Spanks in Public, please!
by: Anonymous
If I see someone in public spanking a child, I immediately call 911 and demand an officer come to check for child abuse. While I agree spanking doesn’t always equal child abuse, too many people substitute the use of force for actual discipline. Personally, I feel it is child abuse if you aren’t
1) Holding yourself to a higher standard than your child at ALL times, in their view or not. How would you feel if your boss demanded a high standard from you but continually failed to do so himself? Enough said.
2)You are not making the effort to catch your child succeeding & complimenting them on it at a ratio of at least 15x the amount of times you catch & comment on them failing. If you aren’t rewarding good behavior, your kid is never going to truly learn.
3) Choosing a punishment that offers a chance to correct one’s mistakes is much more educational and will bring about better results in the end every time. Instead of spanking, the child who makes a mess should clean it up.
4) Expectations should be clearly delineated beforehand _each time_. Kids are forgetful & distractible just like adults. If the child can read, you can just make a list for the fridge & the back of the seat in front of them in the car. Specific limits like “Today we are buying only clothing, and you may spend up to $20″ or “Today we are shopping for Mommy. There is no money for purchases for you. Your turn will come on Friday” makes it easier for kids. I have raised 4 kids successfully to adulthood & never had one of them throw a fit in a store when I remembered to do these things. Not even in the “terrible twos”.
From a more practical viewpoint, if you’ll spank your kid in public, you are much more highly likely to be doing worse to them in private. Of the times I have called 911 over people spanking in public, more than half the times the child is found to have burns, bruises, or other signs of repeated abuse. To those who were simply disciplining their kids, I’m not at all sorry. I would much rather be wrong than fail to do what I can to help even one child who is abused. Besides that, spanking in public is rude to the people around you. The definition of rude is doing something that embarrasses or hurts the people around you. We don’t even want kids of our own screaming around us, so we sure don’t want to hear yours scream in pain and shame. It makes us feel bad for them and it hurts our ears. Especially in the bathroom. Having to use the public bathroom is nasty & uncomfortable enough without some whack job pounding on their kid while we listen to their pathetic screams of pain echo off the tile walls. Seriously, just stop that.
Jan 23, 2012
young man needs a spanking
by: brent
yes im ayoung man ive ben bad i need to be spanked only to tech me live in portage la pririemb im serious any mothers out ther pleas respond tto this
Jan 12, 2012
Paper Bag
by: Caroline
I have never spanked my girls in public (except at a relative’s house). I have given them plenty of corner time in public including stores and at church.
One time in the grocery store when my oldest daughter was 13, she was being a major brat and after several warnings I marched up to the checkout, asked for a paper bag, and proceeded to tear eyeholes in it and write on it, in big letters, “PUNISHED FOR BEING A BRAT”
I made her put it over her head and wear it until we got home (which included going to another store). I got some evil looks and whispers from onlookers, but I ignored them. I believe in humiliation as essential to discipline.
When we got home, she was of course spanked and given an hour of cornertime both with that paper bag over her head.
Jan 09, 2012
Its not child abuse
by: Anonymous
Bare butt spankings are not child abuse… I deserved every single one i got when i was growing up. We would get 2 warning, if the bad behavior continued, my mom would chase us around and would eventually get us, take us o the restroom, pull down our pants and underwear, then she’d wet her hand and start slapping away. She never took it easy on our behinds, we’d hop around in pain, and were unable to sit down for hours.
Jan 06, 2012
I hate spankings!!!
by: Anonymous
Once when I said shit under my breath at the grocery store, my mom told me to take off my pants when I didn’t she did. I put up a fight which got me into more trouble. Anyway she finally got my pants down but I ran (yeah emberissing). Anyway she took me to the bathroom and gave me 30 strokes with her belt. Bare. I was 11 at the time now I am 25.
Dec 18, 2011
spanking it hard
by: Anonymous
one time my child was misbehaving in a school program i spanked her on the butt intill it was red in front of every one and took all her cloths off
Dec 14, 2011
new spanking ways
by: Anonymous
She will be 12 soon.we began spanking at 11.we have set down rules.we will only continue spanking one more year.as she is turning 12 there will be no more bare bottom spanks.in ladies rooms she will get spanked with a bolo paddle over her jeans.at home she will get spankings with her underwear or bathing suit bottom on and always 12 spanks and 1 hour early bed
Dec 12, 2011
ladies room
by: Anonymous
I carry a small hairbrush with me for these occassions.at home we have a small bolo paddle or we use paint stirrers.we don’t spank to cause severe pain,just heat to the seat to let her know its time to stop.
Dec 08, 2011
Testing
by: Anonymous
When brought her back home for her spanking in her bedroom. Did you spank with hand only or did use a wooden spoon or hairbrush. Yes kids like to test us, to see if you will follow up.
Good for you on keeping you word.
Dec 05, 2011
testing
by: Anonymous
Well.. all anti spankers need to read this.my dd had been doing wonderful. I have been posting abt her progress.at walmart today she threw a tantrum.I thought we were past that.since we were done shopping we went right home and right to our bedroom.a long hard otk spanking on her bare fanny was given. She is in bed and will get up to eat and bathe and be in bed quite early.during her spanking she cried and said she was testing me. These kids want love
Nov 28, 2011
Mama taught us a Lesson
by: Anonymous
Did your mom ever spank you with her sandals or flip flops growing us as well.
Nov 28, 2011
spanking in public
by: Anonymous
when spanking is a form of discipline it should be done in public in the toilets if need with my daughter who 7 years old if she misbehaves she knows that she has 1 warning which is smack on clothed bum in public then the second time id take to the toilets where i get the wooden bum spoon out of my bag and pull down her pant and panties and she get 10 swats and when she gets home she would get the belt on her bare wet bum and in the corner for 10 minutes then if she naughty again that day she will just get bare wet bum spanking with bum spoon or belt depending on the offence. at the home she is made to walk around in drop seat pj s with her naughty knickers so we can give insistent spanking and does get a hard maintance spank on sudays if she had more than 2 sessions of spanking
Nov 26, 2011
not abuse..its correction overdue
by: Anonymous
When I take her to the ladies room,I use a small hairbrush.no more than six spanks. I do not feel I am abusing her.a warm fanny isn’t trauma
Nov 22, 2011
Mama taught us a lesson
by: Anonymous
My father was mild mannered and small. My mother was bigger, sronger and dominant. One time she demanded that my father beat my brother and I with his belt for coming home late. He faked a couple of swings and we faked some tears. My mother then grabbed the belt out of his hands and applied the belt to our bare bottoms a with a vengence. The screams and tears were now vey real. He tied to stop her a few times but she kept lashing us over and over again until she finally got tired.
We were never late again and I loved my mother more than ever.
Nov 21, 2011
Divided on the subject
by: Matthew
I can�t imagine myself ever spanking one of my own kids, though I was often spanked as a child and teen, nearly always by my father. If I had done something wrong he would usually tell me the day and time I would get spanked. Often because of my yelling and begging he started taping my mouth shut. My brother and I were usually spanked bent over a bench or table, usually with a belt or paddle. We had to be crying, and crying hard, before he was done. I don�t think we were ever bare bottomed. I was constantly trying to cover my rear with my hands, because it simply hurt. It infuriated my father to no end. So he would tie my hands in front of me, and my brother�s hands, with a short length of clothesline, so we couldn�t reach back. Then it really stung. I don�t think my brother ever got his mouth taped shut; usually just me. Then we were nearly always sent to bed, where I had to leave the tape on my mouth till he said otherwise. I was usually crying so hard from the pain and embarrassment that I could hardly see. My brother does not spank his daughter. We never saw the need to carry on the �tradition�. There are so many creative ways to maintain discipline, and we can�t bring ourselves to hit our kids. But we did survive the process ourselves. We usually had to act up pretty good to get spanked in the first place.
Being spanked in high school and college was not unusual for kids my age, but I don�t personally know anyone from my age group that spanks their own kids. I�m somewhat divided on the subject, by I personally have not seen the need for it. Though I have seen some kids with major maturity issues, especially in public, that makes me wonder. But I also wonder how a 12 year old having a tantrum on the floor has gotten that far in the first place. One couple I know are far too permissive with their two kids, but they let that get out of hand long ago�.
Nov 17, 2011
teach a child whats right and wrong!
by: Anonymous
If they are really making a big seen and you told them to stop then take them to the bath room and make more of a sern voice if you have to lay a hand on them do so on the bottom ,that what it for , Try to treach your child how to ack at home with guildness and you won’t have inbasment later in a busy place,
Nov 17, 2011
How it should be done
by: Bill
I think spanking bare bottom is fine just not in public. I Spank my 15 year old daughter bare bottom and she accepts it and learns from it. If making the bare bottom spanking the norm in your house hold your children will know what to expect when getting into trouble and not be offended by it, but if your going to Spank on the bare it must be done the correct way. I punish my daughter in her room to keep it private. We talk about what she did and why she is being punished.She places herself across my knee and I pull her pants and underwear just past her bottom. Anything lower is not needed and just plain wrong. I then use a hairbrush to Spank her with because I do not think a parent should touch their child in that area. I give Her a very hard spanking until I think she’s learned her lesson. With her bottom being bared I am to still Spank very very hard with out actually injuring her because I can see the damage. I usually Spank until her bottom is a deep red then pull up pants while still over my knee preserving her modesty. I give her a warm hug and we carry on with our day. Spanking like this let’s u get a good point across without humiliation or abuse.
Nov 16, 2011
To: Spank them Hard by Anonymous
by: From: You are F ‘ed up!
I have two words for you. CHILD ABUSE!!!!!!!
If I knew who you were I would call the authorities and report you to child protective services in the state that you live!
Nov 10, 2011
Demeaning
by: Belamby
I am surprised with this question, (and the poser of the question does not mind carrying out the act of spanking kids in public, obviously). Surely, it cannot be too hard to comprehend that making a public spectacle of spanking children is ludicrous.
Have you know respect for that child you are responsible for bringing into the world?
Your child will always remember-the horror of being knocked about by mum or dad. The horror also of leering ratty people enjoying to see a child treated like that, is enough to make the hardiest vomit.
One day surely you will ask ‘is it all right for my son or daughter never to let them see my grand kids……………………?’
B.
Nov 07, 2011
still going great mild setback
by: Anonymous
When you took your daughter back to ladies restroom to spank her bare bottom. Did use your hand or one of your flip flops to make your point to your daughter, that spankings will continue to happen when she throws temper tantrums in public?
Nov 06, 2011
Spanking
by: Anonymous
Bare bottom spanking is just not required. If things have got to this stage you have already lost it. I am beginning to think this site is attracting some very odd people indeed.5UNPAY
Nov 06, 2011
tactile punishment
by: Anonymous
I don’t know why but I have an uncomfortable feeling about people who write up in such detail about their child spanking experiences. Whilst I agree that the occasional ‘dusting’ can be of benefit I just don’t see why we have to read about the ritual associated with it. It seems to me that some people are getting a little overtly interested in the mechanics of the thing and others enjoy reading it. Whilst it’s perfectly acceptable to discuss such triggers as public behaviour and tolerances within the home, I feel that we do not need to hear about under-ware and other personal details. Incidentally, who ever set up the spell check on this site must be using a specialized American form of English, certainly not the Oxford Dictionary that I was brought up with. Behaviour is spelt as I have spelt it here BEHAVIOUR yet the site spell checker won’t have this at any price.Likewise ‘SPELT’ as used here does not require a double L. It might perhaps be an idea to look into the proper spelling of the Queens English as a sub-section of this site, you certainly need it.
Nov 06, 2011
update
by: Anonymous
Its been eleven days since I have posted..eleven glorious days of family joy and a happy child.I am learning to be consistent and since our original rough spot I am more relaxed now and dd is doing wonderful. Today is the first time I have had to apply discipline since I last posted.I so wanted to let it go but I would have regretted it. We got up and had a nice breakfast and got ready to go to friends.dd wanted to mall shop first. My answer was no.I thought that was the end of it but at the friends she asked again and I said no.she slapped my friends table and screamed she hated me and kicked the table.I asked my friend if we could use her upstairs bathroom.she knows what I have been doing.she handed me a wooden ruler. Dd fought going up the stairs but a firm swat got here there.once in the bathroom the pleading began but also ended with a well spanked red fanny.she apologized to my friend and we had no further problems today.stay consistent!
Oct 27, 2011
still going great mild setback
by: Anonymous
I am not going to let myself be upset.after eleven yrs,in nine days we had a major change in our daughter when we began spanking.today we had a small setback. She had a tantrum about not getting the nintendo game she wanted.the tantrum was nothing like the first time but still a tantrum.I debated over what to do since she’s been so good.then I realized I had to be consistent.I took her hand and marched her to the ladies room.this time she knew why and begged and pleaded.it was hard but I didn’t say a word. And bared her fanny and applied heat to the seat.we finished up and went home.her dad sent her to bed.he told me not to give up… I am trying!
Oct 27, 2011
reply
by: Anonymous
My first spanking was at fifteen by my dad with a hairbrush.I was spanked a few more times that year with a paddle…the funny ones from country stores.it said ” for the cute little dear with the bear behind” the spankings were always the same. On the bed,pants down and set on fire. Then we carried on
Oct 26, 2011
Response to: growing up getting spanked…in a very loving home.
by: Jim
You graduated with a 4.0 GPA? I don’t think so, unless composition was not part of the curriculum. Why is it that all the “pro” spankers are such dullards?
Oct 26, 2011
you have to be Americans
by: Rob Broughton
You pro spankers have to be American. Duck taping a childs mouth? No wonder your country is in such a diabolical moral decline. You used to lead the world in radical social development.
I can hardly believe that people seriously think they need to hurt to teach.
On reading some of the pervy contributions one cannot help thinking there is some ground for real concern here and that this site should try to address it.
Control can be exercised by patient, educative process. I used take treasured objects from my disobedient son. I never hit him and, as far as can be ascertained, he is now a fulfilled and resonably happy individual who loves his mom and dad.
The word I have to enter to post this is ARCANE. How appropriate!
Oct 25, 2011
growing up being spanked
by: Anonymous
Did your dad ever spank you with just his hand or implement when needed
Oct 24, 2011
happy day
by: Anonymous
Today went great and bedtime was excellent.no fight at all.woohooo. I know there will be some not so good days that will require a reminder but overall I think the battles won.I hope you all consider pro spanking and wish we hadn’t waited eleven yrs. I will check in and am here to help anyon don’t give up if the first fanny warming doesn’t seem to work.it may take a few but consistency wins. Have a happy home:-)
Oct 23, 2011
growing up getting spanked…in a very loving home.
by: Anonymous
I grew up in a very loving home and although my siblings and I were well behaved we on occasion would go over our three warnings and would be sent to our rooms where our parent would explain to us why were getting a spanking bare bottom and all we received these till 18yrs of age. I am thankful to my parents for doing so it made me think twice about doing something that would earn me a spanking. When I was eight I cut school with a friend and went to a mall clowe to where my dad had his law firm. Where his business associate saw us and told my dad who picked us up wyen he took us to his office where I got by skirt pulled up and my panties pulled down for a sparking infront of by friend the next day at school my dad told my teacher and principal that he spanked me. Well my friend the one who was with me never got in trouble her parents just said don’t do it again needless to say she did I went on to graduate with a 4.0 GPA while she cut so much in later years that didn’t graduate. So yes spanking in a loving setting can work I never was hit with anything other than my parents hand and I never got a spanking I didn’t earn.
Oct 23, 2011
the battles are done:-)
by: Anonymous
I have been updating our daughters progress so that I see its working and I hope helping other parents.the days have been amazingly great,outings have been joyful.yet the bedtime issue would not quit.I thought abt it all day yesterday and realized she seems to be holding on to this control and tantrum.sure enough,even though we had a perfect day yesterday,bedtime was a rage.I tried a harsher approach. I told her she earned another spanking from me.I made this one a ritual.at 6pm I told her to get her bath.her bedtime is usually 10pm. She bathed.I went in and took her out of the tub and used a switch on her bare wet fanny and told her to put her pjs on and go to her room and stand in the corner. I went in after five minutes and sat on her bed and told her to drop her bottoms and come across my knee. I used the hairbrush until her fanny was cherry red and sent her back to the corner. Ten minutes later I brought her a snack and told her she was going right to bed..very early. She submitted and got into bed and allowed me to put cream on her rear.I went in fifteen minutes later and found her with her pants down sobbing and rubbing her fanny.she told me today she will go to bed on time and tonight went great.I think her training is complete and don’t think the need to spank will be often.it was all worth it.thank you.
Oct 23, 2011
better yet
by: Anonymous
Well, I will always be pro spank now. I wish we had trained our daughter that way but we can have yrs of joy now. She is happier and a joy to be around. We are still working on bedtime and she’s struggling to control her tantrums which are mild now.today she stomped her feet when I said to do her homework.I let it go to see if she would control herself but her frustration was building.I calmly said I was going to help her calm down and took her to our room and gave her just a mild fanny warming.she still seemed tense so I asked her if she needed more help and I knew she did so we went to a bare fanny until she was calm and rcvd her spamkimg.she did her work and we had a good night…
Oct 20, 2011
still getting better
by: Anonymous
Thank you all who are supporting my reparenting.yesterday was a lovely day.we all got along great and went out.there were no demands,no fits, just peace. No bedtime hassle:-) tonight she had a moderate tantrum abt going to bed.her dad sent her to our room and over her underwear gave her a spanking.she went to bed without further ado.should we be giving her an occassional break? Its going so well…
Oct 19, 2011
So good so far
by: Anonymous
Your right spanking is a great tool. I use spanking with my 3rd old most of the time. all I have to say you want a spanking and he calms down.
A red sore bottom does wonders for kids that throws tantrums and misbehaves in public.
Oct 18, 2011
so far,so good
by: Anonymous
I wrote the post abt my eleven yr old daughter starting to rcv spankings.its working and we are all less tense.today went smoothly and usually all day was a battle.it seems we are only left with bedtime tantrums.she did pitch a fit tonight and I reminded her what was going to happen.we went to my room and I bared her fanny and gave her a sound spanking.her dad spanks on her undes.she went right to bed and didn’t yell or scream.I think we are making excellent progress.she was great at the store today. I used to be anti spanking but I advise any here to reconsider.. I even see a sense of relief in her…
Oct 17, 2011
Anonymous
by: Anonymous
I think you did the right thing to take to ladies room to spank her bare bottom for throwing a fit and rolling all over the store floor.
No parents should have to put up with that crap from their kids.
Oct 16, 2011
trip to the ladies room
by: Anonymous
My daughter is 11 and very spoiled.her behavior lately has been getting even worse.she was never punished and has been running the house.taking her shopping has been a misery and I usually gave in to her demands.today we went clothes shopping and she wanted a inappropriate top.I said no.this resulted in yelling and to my shock,she threw herself on the store floor kicking and screaming.I had had it.I told her I had to go to the ladies room.she was in shock when her fanny was bared and reddened.she didn’t say another word.we finished shopping and went home.she has been told we will be spanking her from this point on until her attitude adjusts. She tested us by refusing bed but a swift five swats on the seat of her pants sent her to bed promptly without a fight.we are the parents.any advice welcome
Oct 07, 2011
sick!
by: Anonymous
it’s sick just spanking a kid and spanking a kid in public?you are crazy!I was never spanked and i gets pretty good grade,and i turned out to be a doctor!
Oct 06, 2011
spanking without humiliating
by: Anonymous
I do believe in spanking but not humiliation.we only give bedtime spankings. We believe in warming a bare fanny but are very s