Some say dating a person your age is better since you relate to each other, others say a much older person is better since he/she will be mature especially in making decisions. But the question remains, does age difference matter n the sustainability of a relationship?
Do you believe that a relationship with an age difference of more than 10 years is sustainable or is the age gap to much? (Photo: Internet)
Can a relationship/marriage with a person 10 or 15 years older (or younger) than you are be sustainable?
There are many risks that such a relationship will not last or may end up being the worst mistake ever made. I will approach this from the woman point of view.
If you are still in your 20s and you get married to a person 15 or more years older than, high chances are you will get bored of that marriage faster than you could imagine.
Experience: One of the problems in the big age gap in a relationship is mismatched life experiences. There will be a big difference in the way each one perceives life especially in career, travel, marriage and children. This is because one person in the relationship has already “been there, done that”. You will always feel inferior to the other partner just because your views towards life or decisions in the relationship will be looked at as “immature” since the other partner is more mature and experienced. This can greatly affect a relationship.
Interests: At 24, you are ready to explore the world, practice almost all the crazy things, party with your girlfriends and much more. But if your partner is 20 years older than you, I doubt you will be able spend every night out instead of taking care of babies at home. This man will be mature, ready to settle down, possibly considering to retire from work and take care of his family and children but not go out every night to wake up with a hangover.
Children: And if you are dating a divorced 50-year-old man with teenage kids from a previous relationship, you need to get things straight with your partner about their interest in having a second family. It pays to be clear about your relationship hopes and dreams from the start.
Your age gap may not be that noticeable in your lifestyle right now, but the bigger the age gap, the more you’ll need to consider what your life together will be like in the long term. Health and the natural aging process are both factors that will impact on the quality of your lifestyle with a partner who is vastly older than you.
A gap of 20 years means that one of you will be a sprightly 45-year-old, while the other has already retired and probably bed ridden because of diseases that come with old age. So the question is, are you comfortable with the idea of becoming someone’s live-in career rather than live-in lover?
Making an age gap relationship work is like any other successful relationship — it depends on strong communication skills, dedication, honesty and a lot of effort. But as anyone who loves someone regardless of an age difference will tell you, love is not only blind, it can’t count very well either.
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