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From Jess: There’s this guy that I’ve been seeing and he truly is a blessing, he goes above and beyond for me. I finally took the steps and left my controlling husband, so I guess my question is does it look like I am leading the right path or should I have stayed for all the wrong reasons?
Diane Hiller: Hi Jess, I do not feel you should have stayed. I do hear you need to go slow and watch for the reemergence of patterns from your past relationship. The universe often tests us to be sure we have gotten the lesson. Slow it down is what I hear. And also remember, “Help is the sunny side of control.”
Janét Bowerman: Dear Jess – I feel you definitely made the right choice as no one should stay in an abusive relationship…especially for all the wrong reasons. My guides say you are on the right path to emotional freedom and have begun the journey for self-discovery and well-being. While meeting this new guy can show you the more positive side of relationships, my guides say to be sure and take time to get to know yourself again and do things for you. Take it slow with your new relationship and enjoy your new journey!
Jacqueline Lunger: Hello Jess, Thank you for contacting us with your question. I sense that you are on a journey and moving into the present situation was step 2 of the journey. Please avoid making any permanent commitments until September or after. I feel you allow guilt to guide you too often. Part of claiming your freedom for a healthier life is stepping away from that. Blessings Dear
Janice McCorkle: Jess, I feel you made the right decision to leave. I am glad you feel blessed by your current friend. Take it slow, feel your feminine power, you owe that to yourself. I feel happiness ahead for you. Blessings Janice
Pamela Cummins: Jess, my guides said, “You already know the answer, why do you doubt yourself?” I got a past-life connection with your former husband and you have broken the pattern. Now it is time to move forward. I am getting a vision of you with this man, children, cat and dog – everyone is happy, dancing around, and there is a rainbow in the sky. TRUST that you are on the right path.
Su Davey: hi Jess, I feel that you have made the right decision to leave and now feel that you need to take some time for yourself, take baby steps and take time to rediscover yourself. You are on the right path now, blessings.
Lisa Noland-Shalosky: Jess – It’s not about staying for all the wrong reasons, it’s truly about leaving for all the right ones. This begins with love of self, period. You must first and foremost love yourself enough to know that you deserve better than the situation you have found yourself in. I would suggest you reach out to a spiritual counselor or spiritualist in your area to assist in guiding you through the self-love process. Leaving your husband only for the love of another man is not leaving for the love of self. Until you have the foundation that you are enough in your own skin you will continue to struggle in the area of relationships, regardless of how he makes you feel from the outside…it’s what is happening on the inside that matters most. Do consider this as you move forward. I do wish you the highest and best outcome for your soul’s journey. Namaste.
Mandy Peterson: I hear the words “don’t be unhappy being alone”. Which, makes sense since one of the main reason you would want to stay with someone for all the wrong reasons would be a fear of being alone or not knowing how to support yourself (which can be common for people who have been controlled and not allowed to be themselves). Don’t leave him because you want to believe that this new person is the perfect replacement to fall back on, but because you believe in yourself and want to empower yourself to move forward. Otherwise you will burden your new relationship with stresses and pressure that don’t need to be there.
Staci Wells: You must truly release the past relationship to move forward. You are still internally and emotionally processing everything that happened. You are someone who is very sensitive to your home and family environment and you have made a major growth step already by leaving the previous relationship. There is still more personal growth to be done. Relationships are our most fertile garden for our personal growth and you must be self-aware of any relationship behavioral patterns you are repeating now as you continue to build the foundation of your current relationship and also in the future.
Elaine Fessey: Hello Jess. Being with your controlling husband was part of a life lesson. As this passes, you find help comes from a man who is helping you to break the pattern. At times, he will test you to see whether you have truly moved forward. This is nothing to worry about as long as you recognise such behaviour. Anything that reminds you of the past controlling relationship will be a test. Take every strength you have learned and move ahead. You are more powerful than you imagine. Much love.
Vaishali Nikhade: Hi Jess, I just asked if you are going down the right path with the guy you are seeing. It seems that there is a lot of confusion or a problem surrounding the situation and you may be aware of it. Either a third party is involved or the relationship with this guy is not what it should be. There is no stability in the relationship – either a health or a financial issue seems to show up.
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From Sarah: Recently there was a not so good rumor going around about me with the teachers I used to work with (total false information btw) and now I am no longer getting called by them to come in, even though I’ve addressed it by the superintendent. I love my job at the school and I’m wondering if I still have a career as a teacher’s aide and if/when I will have a permanent job there. The job I have now is a bit boring and feeling unfulfilled.
Jacqueline Lunger: Hi Sarah, I know what you are experiencing isn’t your fault. Misunderstandings happen in all settings so I wouldn’t place blame on the school either. I am shown that it is time for you to open a new door and this is a way to help you to accept that another opportunity awaits you. When we let go of our frustration and trust that the best path will be shown now, it happens. Blessings for your new venture.
Pamela Cummins: I’m hearing the song lyric, “Something tells me I’m into something good.” There is something better on the way. Your experience at the school was a lesson for you and them. It is important for you not to take those rumors or the schools reaction personally. There will be an opportunity in the future to confront the superintendent on their behavior. But I’m hearing Linda Ronstadt sing, “You won’t matter anymore.”
Su Davey: I’m getting the message to move on. There are other doors opening up for you and I do see you happy and settled, it’s their loss and someone else’s gain. Blessings.
Janét Bowerman: Sarah – While it’s never good to experience judgement by others, especially based on untruth’s…My guides’ say this is a blessing in disguise. If you had gotten permanent placement there, the energy would have been very draining and exhausting for you spiritually and emotionally. This didn’t work out because your guides were protecting you. In the end, you wouldn’t enjoy what you were doing. This door is closing because there is another opportunity on its way. One that will be better serving and you will fit in. I sense this opportunity will come to you sometime after this school year at another school. Hang in there!
Lisa Noland-Shalosky: Sarah – My guides are sharing with me that rumors are based in an element of fear, period. When someone chooses to start a rumor about another being, it is nothing more than their fears being projected onto someone outside of themselves, which is very unfortunate. Now, the humans that have participated in the sharing of this fear are no less than the person that started the rumor to begin with. If you were to return to this school, would you trust those teachers that you are working with to see you for the magnificent truth of who you really are or would you be in constant worry of what they may say next? I feel this is a blessing in disguise, see it for what it is…nothing but fear on the part of those who participated in the experience. Rise above it and create a different and more beautiful outcome for yourself. From a heart centered space, send love to all those who have hurt you and move on. Speak to the universe and create something exciting and new! I wish you well in your future endeavors! Namaste.
Elaine Fessey: Hello Sarah. This job is not the right one for you. You have been moved on because a better opportunity is awaiting you. A period of study will put you on the right path. A new career that is very rewarding. Open your mind to new ideas and don’t take anything personally. Good luck.
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From Jessica: My question to you is will starting a visitation petition for my two children who have been adopted out be a good outcome? I have been struggling with this for a few months now. I was forced to give them up when they were 4 and 5, they are now 14 and 15 and have been in contact with me behind the backs of the adoptive parents. The kids have been telling me and showing me pictures of abuse both physical and mental and I have taken it to the local DSS but nothing has been done. They want me to fight in court for visitation and eventually custody. No lawyer will take my case so I will have to fight it alone, their adoptive parents work for the power authority so I am afraid they will have the upper hand. Any outlook will be helpful. Thanks, Jessica
Jacqueline Lunger: Hello Jessica, I feel your frustration and fear of taking an action that could take your children further away than they are now. I suggest you contact the local women’s center in your area. They are able to help you access legal resources. If you can get into court, my sense is you will be allowed to have visitation. It’s getting into court that is challenging. Bless you and your children.
Pamela Cummins: Before I finished reading this I heard “No.” I get a vision of a woman in court that is being punished for her past and that is you. My guides are saying there are other ways. My guides said, “The children have a voice.” It would be more believable coming from them. I got online and resources. What that means to me is if the public sees their story it will be more believable. I know, a hard thing to do.
Diane Hiller: I’m, very sorry and in no way to do I mean this to be hurtful. If they were legally adopted and your parental rights terminated, I do not believe the children will be able to impact this much until they are of legal age. If they are being abused in the adoptive home they can call in their own report, (not the best option). Better they tell a school counselor or teacher to do so as they are mandated reporters. I also feel it is unfair to put them in the middle of what is an adult issue, and you may be breaking the law if it was not written into the adoption agreement that you are allowed contact. You really need a good lawyer to explain this to you. It is not likely you will win any visitation fight at this time. I believe that you would need the consent of the adoptive parents. In short, you need to talk to an attorney to see what your options, other than fighting this, may be. If your life is now in good order and the adoptive parents are in agreement, you may be able to work out something. Likely they would have you undergo an evaluation as well as the children. I feel the best you can do is get and keep your own life in order and seek options. Going behind their backs is a very bad idea, and one which will not be looked upon favorably by the very people that you need to help you, the court, the adoptive parents and DDS. If they are being abused, it certainly needs to be looked into but, this does not guarantee that they will be returned to your care. I understand that this is very painful situation, I worked for DDS as a consultant for over 10 years. I wish you the best. They will likely come back to you when of age.
Mandy Peterson: Hmm, I hear the words “Office of the Children’s lawyer” (such as “Lawyer’s For Children America”). So, instead of finding representation for yourself, search for lawyers who represent the children (they can initiate an evaluation, etc.). I also hear “wait for perfect timing.” If children reach 16 and are able to support themselves, sometimes they can apply for emancipation (as a minor). In the meantime, the message for you is to take care of your physical and emotional health, and bring your life into balance. They are saying that fighting this all alone is “too much work” and might cause you stress related issues. I also agree with Diane that it is best to try not to cause too much drama or noise over things unless you can act swiftly or have the appropriate legal representation and support–because you could get accused of parental alienation tactics, interference, evading a court order, false allegations or other things. It can always help to have your own psychological support through a therapist who might be willing to offer support or to stand up for you or the children.
Elaine Fessey: Hello Jessica, this must be a very difficult time for you. Your children are confused and angry and this is bound to pull at your heart. I do feel, however, that this is not a good thing to do and could cause more problems for them both. By waiting a few years they will have a voice that can be heard. You must take care of yourself and stay calm. I feel some important facts here may be covered over by emotion.
Vaishali Nikhade: I get that if you go this route, you will run into a lot of financial losses, as well as a lot of emotional pain. In case you pursue the legal route, there will be a lot of back/forth which will tend to make you weak emotionally as well as health wise. You will be depleted of a huge amount of financial resources. This may not be the best route to go.
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From anonymous: I’m helping my girlfriend gather data and information regarding a legal matter. We have been friends since we were 11 years old.
She lives in another state and is the caretaker for her 95 year old mother. Her brother passed away last week, he was the Power of attorney, but now his sister and my friend are the POA. He has not been transparent with her regarding her Mother’s finances, wouldn’t give her any info on the accounts. Now it appears the brother has his son controlling the finances and he is the beneficiary on the account. So my friend, the child, has to ask her nephew for money to care for her mother and he isn’t responding to any of her requests.
I advised her to see an Elder Law Attorney in this matter to help her obtain all documentation regarding her mother. So even though she is POA, the nephew is controlling everything. The bank account only has his name on it. He could wipe out the account if he chose to, but I don’t think he will. My friend and the nephew live in different states but the mother is with my friend and she has her in an assisted living.
How do you think this case will shake out? Thanks.
Jacqueline Lunger: Tough situation for sure, family matters always are difficult. In most states that I am aware of, the Clerk of Court controls guardianship and financial control matters of impaired persons. I would begin there. This isn’t psychic advice just lessons learned in the school of life.
Elaine Fessey: Hello. I guess the question here is can you both trust the nephew to be fair in this situation? The answer I get is to always keep him informed of the mother’s needs and wants. He is fair and enjoys the sense of responsibility this role provides him. This is probably a question of who is in control and sometimes someone who is less involved in the situation is the best one to deal with things. Please take legal advice here as it could become an emotional issue.
Pamela Cummins: I got family karma. My guides are more concerned with your friend taking care of herself. Her stress around this situation is affecting her health. I’m hearing, “Body, mind, & spirit.” She needs to focus on taking care of that as a priority. If she does that, the rest of her life will fall into place.
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From Brandi: Hi my name is Brandi and my date of birth is 03/29/1994. My question is does Bryan love me?
Elaine Fessey: Hello Brandi, I feel that Bryan is in awe of you, he likes you very much, but is afraid of commitment. He will always make you doubt his intentions because of this. His actions towards you are probably all you need to know about his feelings. Give him a chance to get his confidence and don’t make too many demands. He may run!
Vaishali Nikhade: Hi Brandi, I asked how Bryan feels about you. This is what I get: There is a feeling that you give him immense happiness and a deep emotional satisfaction. At the same time, some sort of conflict as far as commitment is concerned. Almost as though he is torn about commitment and happiness. Maybe some back/forth as far as commitment is concerned.
Pamela Cummins: I heard “No, not yet.” I get a young feeling around this, either you both are young, someone is immature, or the relationship is young. I see a woman watering a plant and it grows. Allow time for this relationship to grow.
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