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I sat here and thought about writing a big long post explaining every incident as I have individually from Moon Guard time and time again. The bottom line is this – yes, I am from Moon Guard, yes, I did encounter drama with a group of Moon Guard players that are very Tumblr centric (no, these guilds aren’t the largest or most influential on the server) and at times, I was reactionary in my responses to their Tumblr and in game antics. That said, the vast majority of claims that a handful of people consistently regurgitate and signal blast are not only without merit, but straight up false. To even post here to a large degree is something I find incredibly uncomfortable, but people I care about are being hurt by these malicious rumors and rumor mongers, and to that extent for them, I’m going to address said rumors:
Rumor #1: protecting scumlords
So, this notion is based on some decisions I made as a role-player that was unaware of the history of a particularly notorious WoW person that I got involved with in role-play. He went by the char name Sanguinorian on MG but I know he played on WrA as well and that there were issues with him here. Unfortunately, I was also being attacked without legitimacy by the same people who attacked him, so it was initially hard to know what was the truth since I knew they were posting non-credible accounts of situations about me without screenshots or anything but a gang mentality. I had to learn the hard way, though I will not go into my own personal accounts for the edification of others. Over time I was made aware the extent of the situation and my friendship with said person deteriorated rapidly. My RP lasted with said person for three months and ended on a note of me expressing that I found their behavior to be manipulative, lacking in respect for boundaries at times. We stopped speaking shortly thereafter and I haven’t heard from him since.
Another person in question was someone I’ve had maybe 4 role-plays with in total and it’s never been sexual, contrary to the rumors that the people have spread otherwise. That was on them, but was entirely groundless. It was a non-issue that people made into an issue to be salacious.
I will state this emphatically, however. I do not, nor have I ever supported the boundary crossing of any role-player whether female or male that is ongoing and harmful to others, be it sexual, emotional or otherwise hurtful.
Rumor #2: slut shaming
I made a comment at one point about my RP partner hopping from ERP with me to ERP with another within 5 minutes while we were on skype and called it a ‘hot slide’ and got off the line with him. I asked him at that point to space out the time between the RP’s if he wouldn’t mind because whether logical or not, it just sort of weirded me out. I did apologize for it because in retrospect it wasn’t that big of a deal, but we had a rather hostile break (though are now friends and water is under the bridge) and he shared that particular incident with some of the folks that targeted me.
The other conversation that was brought up was about comments I made about a former RP partner who was attacking me and being hypocritical to boot by trying to cover the fact that we had an ongoing RP for a good long while. I basically did the bad doobie thing of slamming him for being a hypocritical erp lord when he was commenting on me. I was wrong to do that though do feel it’s fair to point out that the people whom have slammed me the loudest have done the same to me on countless occasions.
Rumor #3: victim blaming
I never have and never will. This is a new addition to the charges and there is nothing that has ever pointed to that and the OP is intent on using buzzwords to create an inflammatory situation out of something that hasn’t been a situation for months and months on end.
Let me re-state to be clear here, however, I have never, nor will I ever victim blame and have always been extremely vocal about this in conversations with me. I am empathetic with anyone who has experienced uncomfortable situations since as a female player, I’ve encountered more than my share and know how unnerving and upsetting it can be.
Rumor #4: harassing
I am not a harasser. I’ve had situations in the past like most other gamers where things got out of hand, but I’ve always been quick to apologize and try to make right any wrongs. I have never maliciously gone out of my way to do that to anyone and the one incident pointed to on Tumblr is a situation where my guild that I was the GM of had an event attended by 30 people that was well received.
There were two people near the Exchange fountain, one afk and the other not and we ran over to take pictures. Everyone was rowdy and having fun in vent and started throwing out toys and being stupid and one of my more rash members did the throw up thing on those two. Apologies were made but not accepted and people on Tumblr blew it up. Sometimes people act without decorum and it was agreed upon after that to be very clear in our expectations about guild rowdy behavior in public areas and expectations of respectful engagement. No incidents occurred past that, however, that very same guild did have at least two members trolling me with signs and mounts on multiple occasions after that.
I’ve in fact had all –sorts- of venomous posts from this group of people on Tumblr and most of the people you see commenting have had little to no interaction with me. As in zero in most cases, and are regurgitating their information simply on hearsay. I’ve offered transparency and conversations but none of them have ever chosen to take me up on it and eventually I realized that they don’t want to be convinced of anything other than their ‘rightness’. If they figured out they were wrong about me and looked back on all of the times they have posted and carried on their ‘call out’, I imagine it would be a sucky feeling.
At this point I can only presume their motivations are nothing short of bored maliciousness and schadenfreude since I’ve been on the WrA server since March, made countless friends and created utterly –no- drama. Where I have encountered drama is in the people that seem intent on following me around and posting about me on Tumblr, as well other unacceptable types of contact that is unwelcome (facebook, skype etc.).
One of the people ‘liking’ this post has actually gone to my RL partner’s facebook for a visit before. Beyond that, I’ve had countless ‘asks’ about whether I did graphic sexual positions and on multiple MG secrets posts had explicitly sexual depictions of me made. I’ve had my RL career as an educator called into the spotlight. Have I been out here screaming bloody murder about all of this? Not so much, because in the end, the situations that were dire needed to be addressed individually, and the others would just be me fanning the flames of gossip. I personally am not a fan of that.
Rumor #5: Metagaming
No, I don’t metagame. In any situation where it’s ever come up, I’ve always been open to discuss and organize my RP with those I’m rp’ing with to be fair to all involved so nobody walks away with harsh feelings.
Beyond that, I did tangle a bit with the then MG magistry which was posted about and I’ve got screens and skype captures which discredits the poster here and the version of what happened that she posted. In that case, I honestly should have just walked away and said screw these guys, they are a clique and I don’t need to bother with them, but I tried to fight the rumors and it just blew things up. Oh well, lesson learned.
I’ve been asked countless times why I have never responded to the Tumblr drama. One reason is I just am uncomfortable with it. Seriously – I find it hurtful and harmful and perpetuating of Internet bullying. It caused me to come to WrA eventually because I’d just hit a point where even though I had amazing and supportive friends on MG, I was unhappy and allowed it to just get me entirely down. What I can say, again, is that I’ve been here and done nothing short of make friends and role-play. I’ve avoided drama like the plague because it kills story momentum and hurts people. I don’t want to feel hurt and I don’t want to hurt others. If this is at all in question, ask any of the friends I’ve made.
Now, it’s fair to say that the drama on Moon Guard died down a long time ago, though I’ve heard about my name getting brought up time and again on Tumblr and nothing short of just letting the proverbial haters ‘hate’ and ignoring them has brought me peace.
So why now? Well, one of the people hurt by this latest bout of nonsense is perhaps one of the most intelligent and kind RP partners I’ve had the pleasure to say I RP with. Sicarius De’Vindico, leader of Legions of Alar. He’s reasoned, lore savvy, amazingly kind and patient and utterly devoted to the WrA community. He’s begun building an amazing RP community and they have been hounded by my Tumblr harassers through in game whispers and gossip. This latest post on WrA secrets, the gossip site, is a single example of it. As a result of this post, I am out of Legions of Alar for the sake of the guild so they don’t have to deal with this drama, but Sicarius, being the devoted friend and RP partner that he is, felt he couldn’t just leave me hanging and also left the guild to be supportive of me.
The bottom line is this – I’ve got plenty of amazing friends and role-play partners, and perhaps some of my larger faults in the RP community are in my time management and ninja-afk’s. That and a tendency that I have to keep on top of myself about, which is jumping to the defense super fast. I strive to have amazing stories with all that I encounter and welcome that into my circle for those that meet me. For those that would partake in this drama fest and stirring of an inflammatory pot of history, peace to you.
This community deserves better than people using gossip sites to take pot shots at each other and I genuinely hope that some people out there will take some heart in what I’ve said. I’m by no means perfect but you’ve been fed a bit of hype. Small tidbit to think about before I end this: Which emotion is stronger, hatred or kindness – the answer is, the emotion you choose to feed.
If I have hurt people due to interactions in the game and they feel that sting, please know that I am sorry for that - again, I am not a malicious person and hate the idea of others feeling pain over my actions, inadvertent or not. I welcome any and all questions on my MG character or WrA though of course would ask that it not be out of anything other than sincere attempts to resolve rather than escalate. I have interest in only positive and fun interactions in the community.
“…the vast majority of claims that a handful of people consistently regurgitate and signal blast are not only without merit, but straight up false.”
Hahaha oh god look at what I found. Who had those master listings of shit that demytrya had done? keeperofrecords, terminalpleasure starcunning - was it one of you? I’m pretty sure there was a post of the shit this person has done, but I can’t remember who originally spawned it.
Though let’s be real she’ll just try to say it’s “straight up false” anyway and that pics have been manipulated. That’s what she did last time, right?
The “Starcunning Accounting Services” tag EXISTS to catch Demytrya in her bullshit lies. My tag for her name is full of proof of her misdeeds, most often in her own words.
Which I guess means this should become the newest entry!
Bless you star - too bad it’s “not only without merit but straight up false”. Alas.
Like, has she ever apologized for her behavior? Will she ever apologize in a meaningful way?
Probably not.
No, she keeps trying to say a the screenshots are lies instead. Her outlook is to cry ignorance and stupidity rather than just apologize for shitty behavior, I guess.
I .. what…